The woman is overly focused on the little details... the dress, the bridesmaids, their dresses, the groomsman, their tuxes.... the cake what songs are played..... they run up this entirely out of proportion wedding and go into deep debt to pay for it.... You KNOW they both are getting married for the showy party aspect of it..... Because then it is usually about the wedding and not the marriage.... also when they are very very young........ not going to last.... it's a great big world, you only get one life and stunting yourself into marriage at a young age is not a good idea