Swimming-Rough-9514 OP t1_j6p6ux1 wrote on January 31, 2023 at 10:30 PM

Reply to comment by DMmeOffensiveJokesPP in How do you get over and forgive yourself for blowing a relationship with the one you deeply love because you weren’t putting in the required effort to grow and maintain it? by Swimming-Rough-9514

It is

DMmeOffensiveJokesPP t1_j6p7ev7 wrote on January 31, 2023 at 10:34 PM

I hope you're okay bro. It feels rough, but I always remember both sides need to have the same goals and mindset. Relationships don't always require a boatload of effort, if that's not their type. Can't love someone if you aren't loving yourself, once it pasts that point you know it's an energy suck of a relationship

Swimming-Rough-9514 OP t1_j6p7sjs wrote on January 31, 2023 at 10:37 PM

Life goals and mindset were extremely similar. Connection was amazing.

I just was not able to be super vulnerable and give my all at the time, because of past experiences.

And so I fucked it up because of that and now I can’t seem to forgive myself for not giving it the full chance it deserved.

DMmeOffensiveJokesPP t1_j6p8bjl wrote on January 31, 2023 at 10:40 PM

if (they) truly understood, I think they would've let it go for a bit, not giving it your all at all times isn't a mistake, everyone has their on and off times. If they can't give you that then it probably wasn't gonna work out

Swimming-Rough-9514 OP t1_j6pab7y wrote on January 31, 2023 at 10:53 PM

It was a while, I never had a real relationship before I really didn't know what I was doing.

DMmeOffensiveJokesPP t1_j6pbkqy wrote on January 31, 2023 at 11:02 PM

ugh I feel you. I'm sharing my opinions while I'm finishing up with highschool realizing I have no clue how to treat someone properly