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Blind_Wolf t1_j6p8f5p wrote

Realize that life is very long and there’s more people than you could ever hope to meet. Even if you’re only compatible with one percent of one percent of people, that’s still about a million people who could potentially be “the one.”

Like, life is so long, dude. And you can’t predict the future. Your life may go down paths you could never even imagine. This is gonna sound trite and cliche, but forgive yourself and don’t live in the past.

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Swimming-Rough-9514 OP t1_j6pah7r wrote

Thanks.. It's been over a year and I am still struggling when I think about it. I just miss talking to her, no others I've dated has felt close to the same.

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Mediumokrahmom t1_j6peauf wrote

You’re holding her memory on a pedestal. If you compare everyone else to her they’re never going to add up. You knew her better and longer than these people you’re trying to date.

Have you tried talking to someone, a professional about this?

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Swimming-Rough-9514 OP t1_j6pg8fn wrote

But with her it was instant and intense connection.. It’s rare

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Mediumokrahmom t1_j6pgtv4 wrote

No. It isn’t. Plenty of people connect immediately. Chemistry is chemistry. You won’t connect with anyone because you can’t get over her

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Swimming-Rough-9514 OP t1_j6pj1rz wrote

Maybe. I’m actively trying to get over her though. It’s just not as easy as you are trying to depict

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Mediumokrahmom t1_j6pjmb6 wrote

It’s been a year. I’m not saying it’s easy, but it has to be done.

Perhaps a therapist can help you. You’ve been doing this on your own and can’t get over her. I’ve been there. I know it’s hard not to beat yourself up, but you have to do it for yourself

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