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Mediumokrahmom t1_j6peauf wrote

You’re holding her memory on a pedestal. If you compare everyone else to her they’re never going to add up. You knew her better and longer than these people you’re trying to date.

Have you tried talking to someone, a professional about this?

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Swimming-Rough-9514 OP t1_j6pg8fn wrote

But with her it was instant and intense connection.. It’s rare

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Mediumokrahmom t1_j6pgtv4 wrote

No. It isn’t. Plenty of people connect immediately. Chemistry is chemistry. You won’t connect with anyone because you can’t get over her

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Swimming-Rough-9514 OP t1_j6pj1rz wrote

Maybe. I’m actively trying to get over her though. It’s just not as easy as you are trying to depict

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Mediumokrahmom t1_j6pjmb6 wrote

It’s been a year. I’m not saying it’s easy, but it has to be done.

Perhaps a therapist can help you. You’ve been doing this on your own and can’t get over her. I’ve been there. I know it’s hard not to beat yourself up, but you have to do it for yourself

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