goblinusMaximus t1_jaem5p0 wrote on February 28, 2023 at 9:47 PM

Reply to comment by FizzyBeverage in Men, what would you do if you went out on a date with a trans woman and you smashed and didn’t realize they were trans until they finally told you a day later? by [deleted]

To my understanding they usually do, at bare minimum as a matter of safety. Some people get violent about any event that makes them question their own sexuality.

FizzyBeverage t1_jaeme8e wrote on February 28, 2023 at 9:49 PM

I've read enough psychology texts to know that sexuality is fluid, and while I'm a cisgendered heterosexual man... that's just a human-made label. If I was blindfolded and a man or woman gave me oral pleasure and didn't speak or make any noises, would I know the difference? Likely not.

goblinusMaximus t1_jaemq13 wrote on February 28, 2023 at 9:51 PM

Yeah. I think a lot of people take labels like 'straight' or 'gay' (or anything else) to be prescriptive rather than descriptive.

Being gay doesn't mean you're forbidden from finding the opposite gender attractive, but rather it describes what you're usually attracted to. Similar goes for being straight. Finding the same sex attractive (or a trans person) in no way alters your sexuality, just the word you might use to describe it.