First is the grief then loneliness and hoeing around. Then even more loneliness and sadness cus no one compares. Lots of comfort food, drinking/smoking. Looking and feeling like shit. Feeling hopeless and sorry for yourself. Crying randomly. Then hoeing around some more...slowly your heart aches less, you realise that the outside world or another person is not going to give you what you need. You look at the things you neglected while being in the sweet oblivion of love and also the shattered pieces from when your heart broke...and you pick them up, one by one. In this process, you heal. Your heart won't be the same that it was before, but it's alright.