Comfort is subjective, so I won’t say much about that. However, coming from a man with thigh thighs and cheeks, I can say, without a doubt, that the fit is the single most important factor in pants longevity. If you are getting crotch tears/blowout, then you need a pair with a higher rise and wider thighs. Measure your best fitting pair, and add a few inches to the rise and thigh. And look at sizing charts to find a pair.

Steer clear from skinny fits, or look for pairs with wide thighs and a taper from the knee down.

In terms of brand suggestions, check r/rawdenim. Some people have suggested nudies, but tbh they’re known for using material on the thinner side, which is good if you’re looking for comfort. But none of their cuts are necessarily ones I’d say have a wider thigh, some do have a higher rise tho. My biggest gripe with them is their price. There’s a lot more brands out there at that price range that most would consider higher quality in terms of fabric and construction.

I would suggest Sugarcane 1947 cut. Iron Heart 888 cut (most bifl option but $$$), or check certain retailers and their sizing charts to compare. For retailers, check r/rawdenim buying guide.