Yeah - plus Hartford traffic is notoriously terrible. I’d advise against more than a 45m daily commute to Hartford given the likelihood of accidents and serious traffic jams that can add a ton of time to the commute. Not to mention when there’s the slightest bit of snow falling!

The NYC commute is certainly no cake walk, but Metro North is pretty reliable and consistent, and time on the train can be used to catch up on work or just relax. That’ll help OP because unfortunately, on their travel days, they wouldn’t have much other free time no matter how you slice it - though it would be somewhat balanced out with 2 wfh days.

I say this assuming both jobs are roughly equivalent in terms of either merit, salary, growth potential in the respective field, etc.