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GlitterfreshGore t1_j5jlisb wrote

Reply to comment by Jawaka99 in Will I be welcomed? by ExplanationSea6719

I got downvoted on another CT post for saying that we aren’t incredibly friendly. Another person was considering a move here and stated that they had small kids and they were hoping they could find other families to befriend etc. I stated that most people here keep to themselves, and social circles are small, so finding friendships might be a challenge. I’m 40 and have friends, but honestly haven’t made a new friend in years. Most of my friends I’ve known almost 20 years now.

I also said that I just vacationed in the south, and everyone there was so friendly and chatty. Small talk everywhere, literally everyone was social. I said I couldn’t wait to get back to CT where I could be ignored again.

I got like six downvotes lol

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Kodiak01 t1_j5jxq87 wrote

> I also said that I just vacationed in the south, and everyone there was so friendly and chatty. Small talk everywhere, literally everyone was social. I said I couldn’t wait to get back to CT where I could be ignored again.

People in New England are Kind, not Nice.

Nice is what you get in the South and Midwest/West. They'll be all smiles and chatty to your face, but will get the claws out the moment you turn your back.

In the Northeast, Kind is a crotchety old bastard calling you every swear word in the book (and probably making up a few new ones along the way) as they're help you change a flat tire on the side of the highway in a torrential downpour.

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stengbeng t1_j5jqetr wrote

Probably got downvotes for using personal anecdotes to paint an entire state with such an unfairly broad brush. We have become fast friends with like 5-6 different families on our street since we moved here in 2017. Any issues with meeting people is on you, all it takes is a knock on the door and a smile.

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