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KilgoreKarabekian t1_jaw7ysn wrote

Bro I would stop being friends with anyone who starting talking to me like that.

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adelie42 t1_jawlf7d wrote

It needs to be genuine. You can do it in ways that doesn't make you sound like a snobby ****.

The central issue is acknowledging other people or how they helped rather than making everything about yourself. People that do annoying shit are twice as annoying when they won't stfu about how sorry they are about being annoying.

If someone let you vent, you can just say "thanks" or "I can get through my day now without stabbing a ****". Do you really like it when you give someone your time because you care about them and then they apologize for giving you a chance to be a good friend?

(Reposting because apparently automoderator doesn't like the language I use with my friends to tell them I love them)

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RenzoARG t1_jawtv6l wrote

You like being blunt, direct and honest with your friends, without fear of offending them, because you like to deliver the direct message without space for misunderstanding?

Yeah, they don't like that here... You've to sugar coat everything.

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KilgoreKarabekian t1_jawvubo wrote

If you cant be blunt, direct, and honest with your friends are you even really friends. Never mind the fact that these sayings are just cultural and not literal.

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adelie42 t1_jaxdyz9 wrote

I won't claim it is without fear. It is always scary. But it always works out for the better and I get the comfort of knowing I am living in alignment with my values.

If you have to sugar coat everything, those people are not your friends. At best those are people you put up with to avoid being alone.

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RenzoARG t1_jaydj27 wrote

Exactly my thoughts. If I'm messing up at something, I want my friends to let me know, ASAP, in a concurrent tone with the severity of the situation.

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