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kdavido1 t1_jbeqfti wrote

Reply to comment by vamanaswk in Hidden Gem [image] by ChefGirlRD1738

Or worse, the person who is causing the harm comes at this from the perspective of the ‘hidden gem’. I.e they are abusive but it’s ok because their feelings are valid, etc. I firmly believe that messages like this text enable toxic behaviour.

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writerchic t1_jbfast3 wrote

That can be true too. It depends on who gets this advice.

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walking_deadinsides t1_jbhqwrk wrote

100% yes. This resonated with me and my situation with my best friend. 26 years of ups and downs. We have taken 4 breaks in 26 years bc of her being insane and letting her BPD/Bipolar take over without any regard. This will be our 5th time and hopefully the final break. She snuck into my room while I showered with my husband to snoop on our conversation. I feel so violated and sick. How do I know she did this? She told me in her 10’page text rant/meltdown. I can see her posting this “hidden gem” or sending me this as a jab of sorts.

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