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4ssteroid t1_jc9de6l wrote

Nah man. In the last 8-9 years I've not made a single meaningful connection with any other human being. I used to be different. Whatever social interactions I have are family or friends who I made before that time. And the more I meet those friends, they stop wanting to hang out with me because I'm clearly doing something wrong. But I have no idea what it is.

I do complain a lot and try to act like I know everything which is obnoxious. Maybe I'll start there.

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SquirrelAkl t1_jc9mee5 wrote

That sounds like a really good place to start.

My brother used to act like that too. It was the armour he wore to hide how extremely sensitive he was inside. I think he’d numbed his feelings with alcohol for so long that he started believing his armour. It made him quite hard to be around sometimes.

This could be a start of a whole inner journey for you that you’ll come out the other side of much stronger and more authentic.

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4ssteroid t1_jc9nhou wrote

Spot on. I don't like being taken advantage of. I know nobody likes it but some people just accept it. I hold a long term grudge and try to avoid situations where I can be taken advantage of. I also don't like hurting people and when you get close, you end up hurting people just with a simple "no" sometimes.

I hope your brother is not stuck there especially relying on alcohol.

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SquirrelAkl t1_jc9nxfx wrote

Sounds like you’ve got good self-awareness, and that’s a great step.

If you dig deeper to find out why you feel that way you can work on healing what hurt you, letting go of the grudges (they only hurt yourself!), and learn to say no in a nice way that respects your own boundaries while not hurting others too much.

Best of luck on your journey. It isn’t easy, but it can be really freeing.

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