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4ssteroid t1_jc9nhou wrote

Spot on. I don't like being taken advantage of. I know nobody likes it but some people just accept it. I hold a long term grudge and try to avoid situations where I can be taken advantage of. I also don't like hurting people and when you get close, you end up hurting people just with a simple "no" sometimes.

I hope your brother is not stuck there especially relying on alcohol.

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SquirrelAkl t1_jc9nxfx wrote

Sounds like you’ve got good self-awareness, and that’s a great step.

If you dig deeper to find out why you feel that way you can work on healing what hurt you, letting go of the grudges (they only hurt yourself!), and learn to say no in a nice way that respects your own boundaries while not hurting others too much.

Best of luck on your journey. It isn’t easy, but it can be really freeing.

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