DatTF2 t1_jedrutg wrote on March 31, 2023 at 7:58 AM

Reply to comment by Doomedromance7 in [image] We all can be better by dee_castafiore

Yes, certainly.

If you are inherently kind hearted there will come a point when someone will abuse it. Or if you are like me you essentially just feel like a door mat because people just walk right over you, or at the very least try to.

Doomedromance7 t1_jedsgnc wrote on March 31, 2023 at 8:07 AM

And when we assert ourselves ppl will leave us as they expect us to be like that , finally i have to be the door mat to survive in this world if not nobody will love me

EdwardOfGreene t1_jefl4s2 wrote on March 31, 2023 at 5:27 PM

Being a good person doesn't have to equate to being a doormat.

If you're tired of being a doormat you don't need to give up trying to be good.

kingtitusmedethe4th t1_jefx2el wrote on March 31, 2023 at 6:46 PM

It took me a long time to learn how to be assertive without sounding aggressive. Because I like to keep my resentments to myself, when I finally speak up, it typically comes out a little more intensely than planned. Learn to set boundaries early and hold people to those boundaries. I promise it is possible.

dee_castafiore OP t1_jego7ka wrote on March 31, 2023 at 9:49 PM

>It took me a long time to learn how to be assertive without sounding aggressive.

Same. Also, as you said set boundaries is an important thing because (some) people will not hesitate to set them for you.