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JoeBobilicious t1_irmi2m3 wrote

I don't stress about things.

Robert Downey Jr had a great quote about worrying.

"Worrying is like praying for something you don't want to happen"


Raddyrode t1_irmm95t wrote

Well yeah, that’s what worrying is…


Neat-Plantain-7500 t1_irno1zh wrote

How do you stop worrying? It’s easy to say don’t worry. Give me a key on how not too. What steps.


tmoers123456 t1_irnriom wrote

Therapy Therapy and just when you think you have "IT" all figured out; BAM more therapy is needed.

I have my own theory about how to make a whole new healthier generation but it's one of those theories that would only work if I had magic wand 🪄

1st. Create a "class" in public schools around Jr High that would be basically 2 semesters of group CBT therapy. So that ppl do not enter into adulthood by saying things like "I didn't know that was not a 'normal' way of life" when talking about their childhood. Plus gives kids entering The Teenage Years w some productive tools to handle their feelings, ALL THOSE FEELINGS, instead of creating unhealthy coping mechanisms.

2nd. I think every US citizen when they are old enough to get a drivers permit, they must spend 3 months of a summer living in a 2nd or even 3rd world country. They could have the choice to enter via JROTC or via a communal peace mission like Green Peace or Habitat for Humanity. Which would change the entire landscape of America for generations to come bc it's not just the traveling but the living with while helping a totally different country/culture that opens your mind to a better understanding of "The World" but having spent my Elementry years living in Saudi & my parents taking my sister & me all over places that were not strictly touristy type places but places so different than our own cultures plus places we would probably have not gone to once we were adults. And all of that adds up to TRULY APPRECIATING HOW GOOD WE HAVE IT, where ever we live in the "Western" 1st world places.

Anyway that's my suggestion for helping you stop worrying & how I think ppl could change the generational worrying that plagues most of us in the Western societies.

Peace to you & your✌️


grizzlychin t1_iro6po4 wrote

There’s a “five why’s” framework that Toyota originally developed to diagnose failures. Basically keep asking “why” over and over to get to the root cause.

This applies to a bunch of other situations. I’m worried about flunking out. Why? Because then I won’t get a good job. Why does that worry you? Because then I won’t be able to earn enough money. Etc. Eventually you’ll probably find that “you don’t want to end up like deadbeat Ernie” (in this example) which can be quite helpful in reassuring yourself that it’s not going to happen.

I use this all the time and it helps me. YMMV.


slopcrusher t1_irpiou0 wrote

You really need to practice mindful meditation in my opinion to stop worrying. You need to be able to acknowledge that a thought you’re having is irrational or a worrying thought. It takes a lot of practice.


New-Respond-5002 t1_irmmesi wrote

... and if you pray about it long enough you just might lead yourself to answer your own prayer. What we focus on is what we notice.


foggy-sunrise t1_irn2n01 wrote

Cheaters seem to think everyone cheats.

Judgey people worry constantly that others judge them.

Nothing matters, folks. It's all in your head.