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xxmimii t1_irzruau wrote

Reply to comment by vaguelyMatt in A Quote on Healing Your Inner Child [Image] by true90sstory

Not to my knowledge and experience. You don't get feelings 'for no reason', fear included. Feelings are simply your brain picking up on things (mostly unconsciously) and giving you a feeling which might make you handle/react optimally to the given situation. You might not think the reason is worth getting afraid over, but your brain has reasons for giving you feelings. Imo it's better to know why the feeling is there and reassure yourself, instead of dismissing it. I don't think dismissing feelings helps, no matter if you disagree with when you're feeling them. You can park them to examine at a later point, you can reason with them as they arise, but saying 'there is no reason' is just a more polite version of telling yourself 'stop being dumb'.

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Saborwing t1_is0oujd wrote

In addition to what u/xxmimii said, anxiety is not always reasonable, but that doesn't mean it isn't real or valid. Whether you have a "real reason" to be afraid (or not) is irrelevant, because the fear is there. If you suppress or invalidate an emotion it can fester, and remains unaddressed. Better to acknowledge it, allow yourself to feel what you're feeling, and then try to move forward using whatever coping mechanisms you have developed.

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alterom t1_is2ctzp wrote

>You can park them to examine at a later point, you can reason with them as they arise, but saying 'there is no reason' is just a more polite version of telling yourself 'stop being dumb'.

This is how the original quote feels like. Here is an improved version.

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