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Pea666 t1_is08q95 wrote

Care for your inner child like you would for a child in the real world. Acknowledge their feelings and their fear and help them overcome it. Never invalidate anyone’s feelings.

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jabels t1_is1tyra wrote

I don’t think Thich Nhat Hanh was trying to invalidate anything, just for the record. I thin he grew up in a culture where it is normal to just be more blunt about these things. Obviously take the care to use the appropriate level of tact but also I think people can use modern concepts like “I don’t want to invalidate X” to hide behind not doing the work to solve X problem, which is actually the worse of two evils.

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xxmimii t1_is2iahm wrote

I simply pointed out that in my opinion it is unwise to invalidate oneself with said wording, and provided a possible alternative for those interested.

I never spoke about Thich Nhat Hanh or his intent, so I don't really understand what your interpretation of the influence his culture might have had on his wording, tries to explain here. Anyone can use any modern concept to fit their own narrative and perspective in order to avoid constructive self reflection.

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alterom t1_is28rty wrote

> I don’t think Thich Nhat Hanh was trying to invalidate anything

He wasn't trying, but he did.

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alterom t1_is2c0l5 wrote

>Care for your inner child like you would for a child in the real world. Acknowledge their feelings and their fear and help them overcome it. Never invalidate anyone’s feelings.

This!. I feel like the quote falls short here. I wish they said something along these lines instead.

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