chojinra t1_it4ysa9 wrote on October 20, 2022 at 11:40 PM

Sorry I would want to do something so my friend doesn’t have to feel like feces anymore….

michiness t1_it5gsue wrote on October 21, 2022 at 1:53 AM

It can be frustrating when it’s. all. the. time.

I lived and worked in Ecuador, and I had an absolutely miserable job. But anytime I tried to talk to anyone about it, it was “oh don’t be sad, just drink and dance and be happy!”

There’s wanting to bring your friends up and then there’s taking “positive vibes only” literally.

chojinra t1_it61xb3 wrote on October 21, 2022 at 4:50 AM

I can see that. My response would be more along the lines of “Damn, that sucks. Want to see if we can find you a better one?”

I guess a “fixer” would be bad too, but I’d have to offer.

WhatAreDaffodilsAnyw t1_it6abdq wrote on October 21, 2022 at 6:27 AM

That's not toxic positivity, that's just empathy, positivity and helping a friend solve a problem

EVILMINDY12 t1_it6578e wrote on October 21, 2022 at 5:25 AM

Totally understand I'm the same way, I think it's more of knowing when to listen and when to provide help at least thats what I'm finding is my issue.