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dioxol-5-yl t1_it5r2i3 wrote

Reply to comment by TwoStepsSidewards in [Image] "Toxic Positivity is Forced..." - Susan David by true90sstory

It shows an inability to relate to someone else's viewpoint that there may actually be a positive. It is in itself a selfish quote about how selfish people who are determined to wallow in their own self pity can erect walls that prevent do-gooders who try to find the best in things from helping you

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trippingbilly0304 t1_it621ci wrote

Youre literally displaying what this post is about. positivity can be just as self absorbed as negativity.

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Vioralarama t1_it69dy2 wrote

Some of you will welcome conversation with good intentions when you're fucked. Toxic positivity is terrible on the internet but less important in person. Judging someone for how they express their own feelings about you means you can't empathize with another person. It also makes you look self-absorbed.

Ex: I know someone who is very much about God having reasons for everything. I was surprised by it, and I really hate that line of thinking, but she's one of the sweetest people I've ever met and has been thru tough times. I see that is her world view so she means the best when she says it. In which case I don't begrudge her saying stuff like that.

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tenebrls t1_it7a1zi wrote

Good intentions don’t matter. Good intentions don’t alter the outcome of actions and events. Good intentions can be used to justify oppressive laws and viewpoints, toxic behaviour, and the propagation of further suffering to others. Good intentions are what people use to pat themselves on the back as they try to forget their world is still a terrible place and their actions have had no significance in making it better.

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Vioralarama t1_it7cv6h wrote

Well then quite frankly, good luck having friends when tragedy strikes.

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EVILMINDY12 t1_it650u3 wrote

It's like we're forgetting depression is a thing, and that's not something you an force ppl out of. Sometimes ppl aren't seeking help, most times it's just a listening ear.

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Ferret_Brain t1_it6lfbm wrote

I can’t find it now, but I remember reading something where someone was upset about something and her partner asked her if she wanted him to listen and help her process and grieve about it or if he wanted her to offer help/support/suggestions and I think that’s a much better way to look at it personally.

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