trippingbilly0304 t1_it62cnh wrote on October 21, 2022 at 4:55 AM

Reply to comment by TwoStepsSidewards in [Image] "Toxic Positivity is Forced..." - Susan David by true90sstory

"Focusing on the positive" can be an extremely destructive process.

Angry_Stunner t1_it6ppxb wrote on October 21, 2022 at 10:02 AM

Focusing on the positive is what kept me alive when i felt like there was no point to going on though... I am a bit baffled by this wave of "toxic positivity" statements in the last 2 years. "Destroy what destroys you" is a common motivation focusing on getting rid of what brings you down, if you dont it will pull you into a depression and keep you there for good.

BryKKan t1_it8tsxy wrote on October 21, 2022 at 7:45 PM

Unless you're condoning murder, that's not always as simple as you think.

NaTssz t1_it6hgcw wrote on October 21, 2022 at 8:02 AM

How come? And what is better than focusing on positivity?

Ferret_Brain t1_it6l7sc wrote on October 21, 2022 at 8:56 AM

Because there sometimes isn’t a obvious positivity, or it seems bleak/pointless even when there is one.

Would you tell a CSA survivor “just focus on the positive”? You might as well tell them to just get over it as well, or that what happened to them wasn’t that bad.

Acknowledging someone’s pain and suffering, imo, is far more beneficial for their healing, because it shows you care about and acknowledge how THEY feel.