[Image] Sometimes failure is brought on by oneself.Submitted by IanAgate t3_y9p0kx in GetMotivated
crashcondo t1_it7dgq8 wrote
My problem is I start seeing results and somehow that makes me anxious and I quit. I assume this is fear of failure rearing its head in a twisted way.
KungFuViking7 t1_it7r7xd wrote
Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate,
Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.
It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.
Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.
We were all meant to shine as children do. It’s not just in some of us, it’s in everyone. And, as we let our own light shine, we consciously give other people permission to do the same.
As we are liberated from our fear, our presence automatically liberates others.
- Timo Cruz, Richmond Legend
xyzqsrbo t1_it98wcw wrote
I physically cringed lmao
KungFuViking7 t1_it9eokg wrote
Do you understand why?
xyzqsrbo t1_it9pon9 wrote
Yes cause it sounded like it was from a dark sonic movie
KungFuViking7 t1_it9zyuf wrote
>dark sonic movie
Almost, its from a sports film called Coach Carter.
I would assume that you are browsing this subreddit to looking for inspiration. Have you tried to understand the quote?
xyzqsrbo t1_ita04lc wrote
Nope I got recommended this in the feed, and just the line that people are afraid of the light in this is enough to cringe didn't really read further
KungFuViking7 t1_itadxu2 wrote
cringe
verb
bend one's head and body in fear
Similar:
cower -shrink
Other more possible meaning in this context.
Urban dictionary: Embarrassed/awkward
Do feel embarrassed for me? or the quote because you don't take time to understand it?
xyzqsrbo t1_itae3pw wrote
The former
CanAlwaysBeBetter t1_it83dmd wrote
Literally whose deepest fear is they're powerful beyond measure? Name one actual person
crockpotknockot t1_it8byyc wrote
Me motherfucker
Wd91 t1_itb6nlh wrote
I have no idea why this is so downvoted. Apparently most people live in a marvel movie or something.
SennKazuki t1_it7s7ea wrote
Sounds like fear of change. Currently I'm at a new job and as part of my new schedule I've been eating healthy and working out. Feeling muscle on my body is strange and at least once every two days I'm relapsing and eating junk food even when I'm not hungry lol. Gonna have to leave something behind in order to move forward.
rippfx t1_it99xv1 wrote
Thanks. I thought something was wrong with me.
HugeDouche t1_it84o7z wrote
Were you a gifted student out of curiosity? I've noticed an anecdotal trend, where after you've conquered the easy stuff, the idea of struggling through the hard stuff is like a wrecking ball to the self esteem
crashcondo t1_it8x8gd wrote
Wow.
I'd say you hit it dead center.
It's like you easily climb this first little hill, and you're like 'Yes!' ok I've reached competency. Then you look and see the towering mountain you now must scale that was previously obscured by the initial hill you were strolling up.
Also your name doesn't seem to checkout haha
HugeDouche t1_ita6u3f wrote
Join us in r/ADHD lmao
There are dozens of us 🥲
Also I get a lot of comments disagreeing with your last line but I thank you kindly haha
crashcondo t1_itj43li wrote
Why am I sort of terrified to join? Like I had a semi-existential crises for a second while considering what random stuff might start popping up in my feed now. Stuff that hits so close to home I'll have to actually face myself.
Don't make me do it! haha
I also realize this reaction likely means I absolutely should be joining.
HugeDouche t1_itja00e wrote
Sorry and congratulations friend! Sorry that you getting slapped with the enormous bomb that this might just be part of who you are. But congrats in that you can now begin to support yourself in the way you always needed.
Other things to keep in mind: there are a lot of other diagnoses that can have symptoms similar to ADHD. Including autism and PTSD, especially CPTSD, among others. You may very well not have ADHD. Also although r/ADH his a wonderful sub, there's a lot of "DAE do this very common human activity?". So keep in mind all of this only matters as much as its affecting your life
Even if you do have it, you are in control of what you want to do with your diagnosis. You don't have to tell anyone, get on meds, change your whole personality, any of that. But you might be able to fill in some of the gaps on things you've always wondered about yourself.
You can do it! And you'll be happy that you did. But it's meant to be a resource, not a new cause of stress. So proceed in your own time, however you need to. We're a mostly nice bunch tho!
Aspiemom0227 t1_itlgfiz wrote
I found this very helpful, but what is DAE?
HugeDouche t1_itli7xy wrote
DAE means "does anybody else" :)
So sometimes on there you'll get posts like "does anyone else get anxious at parties or struggle to do dishes??"
And yes, tons of people with ADHD do struggle with those things! But so do most people. So it's just keeping in mind the difference between having a symptom vs a disorder
Aspiemom0227 t1_itlio22 wrote
Thank you for clarifying.. I think I’m a bit older than most of the people on here and I struggle with the acronyms.
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