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Tritheone69 t1_it74ory wrote

I trained for 10 years and still can’t last more than 9 seconds either…

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crashcondo t1_it7dgq8 wrote

My problem is I start seeing results and somehow that makes me anxious and I quit. I assume this is fear of failure rearing its head in a twisted way.

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KungFuViking7 t1_it7r7xd wrote

Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate,

Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure.

It is our light, not our darkness, that most frightens us.

Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you.

We were all meant to shine as children do. It’s not just in some of us, it’s in everyone. And, as we let our own light shine, we consciously give other people permission to do the same.

As we are liberated from our fear, our presence automatically liberates others.

  • Timo Cruz, Richmond Legend
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xyzqsrbo t1_it98wcw wrote

I physically cringed lmao

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KungFuViking7 t1_it9eokg wrote

Do you understand why?

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xyzqsrbo t1_it9pon9 wrote

Yes cause it sounded like it was from a dark sonic movie

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KungFuViking7 t1_it9zyuf wrote

>dark sonic movie

Almost, its from a sports film called Coach Carter.

I would assume that you are browsing this subreddit to looking for inspiration. Have you tried to understand the quote?

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xyzqsrbo t1_ita04lc wrote

Nope I got recommended this in the feed, and just the line that people are afraid of the light in this is enough to cringe didn't really read further

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KungFuViking7 t1_itadxu2 wrote

cringe

verb

bend one's head and body in fear

Similar:

cower -shrink

Other more possible meaning in this context.

Urban dictionary: Embarrassed/awkward

Do feel embarrassed for me? or the quote because you don't take time to understand it?

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CanAlwaysBeBetter t1_it83dmd wrote

Literally whose deepest fear is they're powerful beyond measure? Name one actual person

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Wd91 t1_itb6nlh wrote

I have no idea why this is so downvoted. Apparently most people live in a marvel movie or something.

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SennKazuki t1_it7s7ea wrote

Sounds like fear of change. Currently I'm at a new job and as part of my new schedule I've been eating healthy and working out. Feeling muscle on my body is strange and at least once every two days I'm relapsing and eating junk food even when I'm not hungry lol. Gonna have to leave something behind in order to move forward.

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rippfx t1_it99xv1 wrote

Thanks. I thought something was wrong with me.

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HugeDouche t1_it84o7z wrote

Were you a gifted student out of curiosity? I've noticed an anecdotal trend, where after you've conquered the easy stuff, the idea of struggling through the hard stuff is like a wrecking ball to the self esteem

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crashcondo t1_it8x8gd wrote

Wow.

I'd say you hit it dead center.

It's like you easily climb this first little hill, and you're like 'Yes!' ok I've reached competency. Then you look and see the towering mountain you now must scale that was previously obscured by the initial hill you were strolling up.

Also your name doesn't seem to checkout haha

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HugeDouche t1_ita6u3f wrote

Join us in r/ADHD lmao

There are dozens of us 🥲

Also I get a lot of comments disagreeing with your last line but I thank you kindly haha

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crashcondo t1_itj43li wrote

Why am I sort of terrified to join? Like I had a semi-existential crises for a second while considering what random stuff might start popping up in my feed now. Stuff that hits so close to home I'll have to actually face myself.

Don't make me do it! haha

I also realize this reaction likely means I absolutely should be joining.

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HugeDouche t1_itja00e wrote

Sorry and congratulations friend! Sorry that you getting slapped with the enormous bomb that this might just be part of who you are. But congrats in that you can now begin to support yourself in the way you always needed.

Other things to keep in mind: there are a lot of other diagnoses that can have symptoms similar to ADHD. Including autism and PTSD, especially CPTSD, among others. You may very well not have ADHD. Also although r/ADH his a wonderful sub, there's a lot of "DAE do this very common human activity?". So keep in mind all of this only matters as much as its affecting your life

Even if you do have it, you are in control of what you want to do with your diagnosis. You don't have to tell anyone, get on meds, change your whole personality, any of that. But you might be able to fill in some of the gaps on things you've always wondered about yourself.

You can do it! And you'll be happy that you did. But it's meant to be a resource, not a new cause of stress. So proceed in your own time, however you need to. We're a mostly nice bunch tho!

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Aspiemom0227 t1_itlgfiz wrote

I found this very helpful, but what is DAE?

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HugeDouche t1_itli7xy wrote

DAE means "does anybody else" :)

So sometimes on there you'll get posts like "does anyone else get anxious at parties or struggle to do dishes??"

And yes, tons of people with ADHD do struggle with those things! But so do most people. So it's just keeping in mind the difference between having a symptom vs a disorder

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Aspiemom0227 t1_itlio22 wrote

Thank you for clarifying.. I think I’m a bit older than most of the people on here and I struggle with the acronyms.

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GeneralZaroff1 t1_it6zpl6 wrote

There are people who can train for twenty years and not even come close to Bolt. You can’t tell me all those other Olympics competitors just “didn’t want it bad enough”.

Let’s not pretend four years of training was all it took. Genetics played a role.

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subzero112001 t1_it74ijb wrote

That quote doesn't claim "they didn't want it bad enough". It states that if you give up early on because things are difficult or you don't see progress, you might never see success.

Working diligently and intelligently towards your goal doesn't make your success rate 100%, it makes your success rate >0%. But if you give up then your chance of success is 0%.

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Nonstampcollector777 t1_it785mq wrote

What isn’t said but very real is that you can put in all the hard work and not see success either. You should put in time evaluating what you really want to do and think you would be good at.

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DnD4dena t1_it8898w wrote

Sure. But you'll be way closer to your goal than if you never tried.

And oftentimes I find the pursuit of the goal gave me skills and experiences that I would not trade for the end result

The routine, the consistency, the competition, the lessons, the improvement, etc. These are great, applicable skills to all aspects of life

And the end goal is often not a great thing to obtain anyway. What's a gold medal to someone vs the overall health you obtain from the training? What's the validation and recognition from the masses to disciplining yourself in all aspects of life?

These are things you don't gain by never trying in the first place

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ytsirhc t1_it9nbod wrote

and this is why the phrase “sometimes it’s not the destination it’s the journey” exists.

lately when I’m trying to decide if i want to do some thing that’s out of my comfort zone, I’ve been trying to ask myself “will you regret not trying to do this if you look back on this moment and remember you didn’t do anything? is this activity some thing that I will always wonder about or is it something that I won’t care about in a week?”

it’s not always easy to be honest with yourself about these things, but in the long run I have to remind myself and others that you will never regret getting up and trying even if you fail. But regretting the times you chose to not do anything out of fear is the most common type of regret there is.

i’m not saying I’m perfect at following this advice, but if you want a shorter version for your brain to remember my brain always thinks of “you won’t EVER regret going to the gym, even if you don’t work out to your full potential that day”

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NeoPhyRe t1_it7u8qi wrote

That's not all either. Even if you don't succeed, at least you will be more capable than if you had not even tried.

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dalyon t1_it7aps4 wrote

The quote also doesn't say he used steroids but he did

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subzero112001 t1_ita6fuz wrote

I haven’t heard of that. Source?

But even if he did use steroids, that doesn’t make his quote false. If Hitler said “2+2=4”, it doesn’t make that statement false just because he was a horrific person.

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Theforgottendwarf t1_it73sqx wrote

Doping played a role. In Jamaica anti doping regulations weren’t introduced until after Bolt had won. His coach was caught. His teammates caught. His results are now absurd anomalies on the leaderboards.

Fraud.

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CurryMustard t1_it7qa7g wrote

If everybody is juicing and hes the fastest of them does that really make him a fraud? Same with Lance. They took away his championships when he was just the best among a bunch of cheaters.

Also why was he not caught if his whole team was?

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DuskyDay t1_it7w03o wrote

> If everybody is juicing and hes the fastest of them does that really make him a fraud?

Yes. Cheating is cheating even if everyone cheats.

(Also, not everyone cheats.)

The purpose of the contest is to reveal the best non-cheating person. Not to give spotlight to cheaters.

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swatson87 t1_it8ve64 wrote

If they're all doping he's still the best, by a huge margin. Dude is a specimen regardless of how he may have enhanced his performance.

Tbh just let them all dope, the cream will still rise to the top.

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rainmaker2332 t1_it83tzw wrote

You guys are so miserable lmao the quote applies to anything you wanna achieve. It's literally just saying don't quit if you don't see immediate results, and you losers somehow twisted it into some "Well ackshully..."

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puckofduck t1_it8y1oq wrote

It's crazy, isn't it? Simple quote, simple message, easy. Commenters in this subreddit will spin any positive message into a straw man so that they don't have to rise to it. It's an absolute pit of a place, just crabs clawing at crabs.

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rainmaker2332 t1_it92eq1 wrote

I know this saying is thrown around a lot but it literally seems like they're just looking for something to be angry at. It's insane

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[deleted] t1_it9c4up wrote

Nah, it's just easier to grind when you have the genes for it. Dudes the fastest man on earth, of course he ain't missing practice.

I don't need the dude with a 10 inch dick giving me shit for passing on orgies.

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rainmaker2332 t1_it92613 wrote

Again, the quote is literally just saying don't quit just because you don't see immediate results. It's not saying some people don't have a leg up over others and that everyone is created equally.

I'm actually impressed you managed to take "don't give up on a goal if it seems like you're you're not progressing as fast as you would like" and twisted it into "anybody can beat Michael Phelps if you work hard enough" what type of sad, failure of an individual does such a thing lmaoooo

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Least-March7906 t1_it74cuh wrote

Yeah, of course genetics played a role, however training is a more decisive factor than genetics. If he did not put in those hours, there’s absolutely nothing his genes could have done for him.

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Nicura200 t1_it7bic2 wrote

i dont mean to be rude, but no shit, Sherlock.

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TheUnweeber t1_it7krmp wrote

That was pretty rude. It's almost as though you didn't try, and so you failed.

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feage7 t1_it7qnjf wrote

You definitely didn't try to be polite.

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ShvoogieCookie t1_it842j9 wrote

The advice is fine if you don't try to become the world's best at everything. Just regularly practicing your guitar doesn't assure you become a world renown guitarist but it will very likely push you ahead of 80% of people, serve as a fun hobby and make for nice evenings where friends would like to listen to some of your tunes.

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prob_wont_respond t1_it84afp wrote

The story ain't really about running dude.

Lots of people with talent give up because they aren't achieving, in whatever discipline it is.

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againer t1_it7h00f wrote

He wanted those genetics more than the other sperm.

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Smoe1981 t1_it7srfp wrote

>Trained for 4 years

>Fastest man in the world

​

Is this a demotivational poster?

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BillyShears2015 t1_it9485v wrote

Doped for 4 years. All you need are some performance enhancers my dude!

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KingNewbie t1_itatt85 wrote

To those downvoting, nobody argues Usain Bolt isn’t an elite sprinter. But the circumstantial evidence he had help is also convincing.

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Sharpshooter188 t1_it7wvwb wrote

Pretty much how I feel. Got my A+ cert. Tried for a few job openings. If I do get an interview, the inevitable experience question comes up. Ive been messing around with computers for a while. But because I have no formal job regarding that position, I do not get the position. Very frustrating.

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Nobuddi t1_it84wk9 wrote

You can try answering the question you wished they had asked. It's a common rhetorical technique that politicians use.

More specifically, I mean when they ask about experience talk about all the experience you have on your projects and what you've accomplished, even if that was just on your own time. You don't have to add the caveat that it wasn't gained in employment, unless they ask directly.

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Sharpshooter188 t1_it856zv wrote

Unfortunately, he "corrected" himself as I was explaining ny experience. "Wait, wait. I mean what are your accomplishments in a professional setting."

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Nobuddi t1_it860ou wrote

Yeah, there's not much you can do about that. It's frustrating.

But, really your only job is give them confidence that you can get the job done for them. If they pin you down like that but you can speak about your abilities with confidence, you can say, "I realize this wasn't in an official capacity, but I'm confident in my current abilities and my ability to pick up anything I'll need to get the job done. I won't let you down."

If they don't buy it, that sucks, but ok. Give yourself a fighting chance. Persistence is a skill and you can demonstrate it in the interview.

"Now, if you know what you’re worth, then go out and get what you’re worth. But you gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody. Cowards do that and that ain’t you. You’re better than that."

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bronney t1_it85m19 wrote

Protip. If you indeed know your shit you should be confident the whole way. If I asked experience and you immediately squirm, I will not hire you because that reaction prolly mean you don't know your shit. Especially in computers, those who know their shit knows cert means nothing.

No formal experience you say. But the countless computers we fixed for family and friends through the decades stand for something. If you don't feel this way you don't belong.

Own your work, it doesn't have to be formal. I never ask my plumber for his experience and he's the only one I trust with pipes. Hold you head up high and go get that job bro.

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Sharpshooter188 t1_it8x42j wrote

I agree with your viewpoint on the certs not meaning much. From what others have told me, it seems to be there purely for HR to take a look at. Ive worked on my own computers since 2015 or so. Now Im looking into networking and ultimately cybersecurity.

Thanks for listening to my bit of venting and your aspect of things. Helps to get a better grip on my industry.

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rippfx t1_ita13tq wrote

I understand there's big stink on companies putting too much emphasis on the certifications. Few things validating your skillset are years of experience, or college degree / certs. Even with that if you don't have shining personality, they drop you in a heartbeat. I know cuz I'm in aerospace giant interviewing candidates for developer's positions and also was on the other side of table many times in the past and will in the future. Sometimes there's nothing you can use as hiring board if the candidates have no degree, certs or experience. Last thing you want as a hiring manager is a bad candidate that costs company money, delays or major mistakes. You get points taken off for hiring bad people.

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Sharpshooter188 t1_itaf8hv wrote

Ive been racking my brain over getting an enterprise switch (very expensive piece od equipment) to practice setting up a network on. More experience and a story to tell during interviews. But oof...boy those are expensive.

One thing that has always bothered me with attitudes, in general, is that a good attitude doesnt mean much as far as raises go. But a bad one is immediately notched as "We dont like you and thus will not hire you."

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ForEachCell t1_it8uxbh wrote

Just update your other jobs with your new skills.

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fadoxi t1_it6y2rb wrote

I've been playing Mc for about eleven.

I still can't Redstone.

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GrandNewbien t1_it761dl wrote

Assuming you're still quite young, why not pick up coding? FreeCodeCamp is an awesome resource.

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Pimp_Daddy_Patty t1_it7aaco wrote

"Wow you're so lucky you can do this stuff"

Something I hear often when showing a new turbo kit or something similar that I designed and fabricated on a car.

Nope, not luck. 20 years of learning and experience.

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Extension-Ad-1683 t1_it8qn3z wrote

"Everyday, it gets a little easier. But you gotta do it every day, that's the hard part. But it does get easier." -some famous 90s actor

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CurryMustard t1_it7qptz wrote

A lot of people angry itt at getting called out i guess

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puckofduck t1_it8z8ri wrote

A lot of miserable fucks, honestly, it's so depressing to watch them tear down the concept of working towards a goal.

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hairysnowmonkey t1_it7dtok wrote

In my experience failure is bought on by one's self to the exact same degree which any success is. It's all on our selves. All of it.

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ChessieJackson t1_it83pvg wrote

If you think you totally control your destiny you're a fool.

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hairysnowmonkey t1_it88ius wrote

I didn't claim that. But if you look for anyone or anything other than yourself to attribute your personal success or failure in life, you're not only an irresponsible failure on that basis alone but a simplistic child looking for an existential scapegoat. All my failures have been on me. Not society nor my parents. All my successes have been me taking whatever assets I have, and beyond that starting point using my own effort applied to what opportunities come. Seems to me this describes most people, regardless of status. You take what you have and try to do something with it. You might succeed or fail. Foolishness and destiny controlling don't play into it.

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ChessieJackson t1_it89pdh wrote

Apparently you've never been anywhere where people gun for you. Freeze you out for no reason....or you're the one doing it.

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hairysnowmonkey t1_it8aofc wrote

No why would you or I be the one doing it? Especially as I apparently don't believe it exists? I've been in many jobs and schools and teams. Worked with and for many people in many fields. In what high stakes fast paced competitive world do you live where people freeze you and gun for you? Or you do that to others? And do you think at the end of their lives people look back and think about their success and failure, they think small petty thoughts about being frozen out of that job or gunned for on that team? Again this sounds like childish scapegoating. Feel fee to give me examples i may be overlooking.

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ChessieJackson t1_it8bvd2 wrote

Dude they do it. Where I work there are people who they just don't like from day one and they make their lives miserable. Notice the wrong thing, unturn the wrong stone, or speak out about the wrong thing you're done.

I work in a safety related field in transportation. It's a joke and everyone involved knows and nobody will do shit about it.

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hairysnowmonkey t1_it8eywt wrote

I believe you and without sarcasm or humor I'm sorry people like that have any sway over your life. It may be just philosophically reframing, but i doubt people who know you or me will judge us as failures by any unfortunate proximity to those people or their damage. The industry I worked in and the specific business were also unfunny jokes. Perhaps you and I succeeded by not playing along with those unfunny punchlines. Here's to those bastards keeping misery to themselves.

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ChessieJackson t1_it8fvd2 wrote

Thanks. If I didn't have a passion for my job I wouldn't care. Everyday I work it's like the movie Idiocracy. You'd think after 21 years you'd get numb to it, but I'm not. Every time I think things are going to improve I just end up disappointed. I tried to lead change and that did nothing but paint a target on my back.

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artguy55 t1_it7pzsm wrote

bolt is full of shit

if he got no results he would have. quit toolong the way

if he got no result he would have. quit too

this is classic justification after the fact

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ChessieJackson t1_it83371 wrote

I've stopped going to the gym because I don't have time to go consistently and got zero results from it.

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puckofduck t1_it8znr8 wrote

Sorry to hear that friend, you're totally right - without consistency it'll never happen. Showing up is 90%

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somethingrandom261 t1_it8be0a wrote

As if every other runner currently competing doesn’t. It does the opposite of motivation when someone with clear natural talent assumes it’s the effort and not the talent that brought them where they are.

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puckofduck t1_it8z19q wrote

Every one of those people has achieved enormously by putting work in. His point stands. If guaranteed world-best status is what it takes to get you out of bed and progressing towards something I don't see it happening.

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redderhunt t1_it9l7u0 wrote

Clear natural talent? Everyone with two legs has clear natural talent. Doesn’t mean they don’t have to work their asses off. Bolt still probably had to put his 10,000 hours in.

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Earlytimes667 t1_it8u8b0 wrote

When I started reading this I assumed it was about Liz Truss—lol

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anevilpotatoe t1_it7aluh wrote

Also being built like a torpedo helps....so yeah...

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Asadislove t1_it7cx4o wrote

2 months? For me try 2 weeks 😂

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dyljeridu t1_it7q5zq wrote

Trust the process.

Yuri Gagarin devoted his entire life to strenuous training and proper health, all in order to leave the Soviet Union for 108 minutes

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loopywolf t1_it8c4f3 wrote

Very true. An artist toils for hours and hours and the audience consumes it in a second, an author toils for months maybe years and it can be read in a day.

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[deleted] t1_it8ef26 wrote

Ok but if most people trained for four years they wouldn't be anywhere close to finishing that race in nine seconds...

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Majukun t1_it8xdb1 wrote

It's funny that the only people that say that are the ones that are already naturally gifted. We get it, you work hard, but some other people worked as hard as you and didn't get the same result.

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a_posh_trophy t1_it8yhcq wrote

Yeah, but how many seconds did you run for while training though?

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resUemiTtsriF t1_it92g2l wrote

and some times you are born with the height, weight and length to make speed a lot easier. but all you other people, train harder.

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kykyks t1_it96f5b wrote

or you know, i trained for years and still didnt got any results.

why bother keeping on doing stuff i dont like for years for no rewards ?

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murphysclaw1 t1_it96s2l wrote

did usain bolt really say “oneself”?

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Bucket1982 t1_it989v7 wrote

This is true. When I don’t want people to come near me, I always fail at wiping myself well. My failure was brought on myself…. Both cheeks

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xyzqsrbo t1_it98qv3 wrote

This is all great until you realize bolt definitely saw gains in 2 months unlike this situation he proposed.

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Milo_Y t1_it9blrt wrote

Results and progress are two different things.

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Adeno t1_it9jjik wrote

Most of the time, people aren't responsible enough to face their own failures. So they blame others. Just look at celebrities right now.

"Oh our show (a certain show about an accessory and power) did not succeed or get high ratings from the audience because they're all sorts of -istaphobes! Surely, you can never blame us! All we ever did was bring the story to modern audiences."

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The_SSSS t1_it9jl8t wrote

This quote also applies to Mal Maninga

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danktonium t1_it9tqkg wrote

If you exercise for two months and genuinely make no progress, it's time to get a cardiologist involved

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FckSuccess t1_itakssi wrote

Absolutely true. Life is a long sprint

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Rainbow_Dash_RL t1_itay3zw wrote

That's actually incredibly applicable to me and my hobbies. I was feeling like giving up, but maybe I'll keep with my favorite competitive game and keep training.

It's very rare that anything here actually motivates me, so thank you, OP

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albundyhere t1_itb2t85 wrote

The quote is a fail. Failures are part of life. If you don't fail, you don't learn. If you don't learn you'll never change.

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Theforgottendwarf t1_it73iuy wrote

Says the guy that was the most likely the best at cheating for 9 seconds. His coach was caught. His teammates were popped. Everyone with ranking near him, DQ’d and yet his records stand.

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SlackerAccount t1_it7uzth wrote

Having worked with him I’m confident he didn’t say this exact quote lol

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flearhcp97 t1_it8w1qi wrote

Yeah, this is total bullshit lol

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puckofduck t1_it8zung wrote

Man, how so? Have you seen this comment section? Full of people who fit the bill.

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flearhcp97 t1_it96c41 wrote

It completely ignores all of the things that led him down the path to even get started in the first place. He's 6'5" and from a country known for runners, especially sprinters. No matter when I started or how many years I trained for, I could never be him. What he said is probably accurate in some situations where certain pre-conditions are met, but in general? I actually find it somewhat insulting.

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mplsmark t1_it79o6z wrote

'If you're famous for a thing where you never speak, maybe no one needs to listen to you."

-me

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SennKazuki t1_it7sxvu wrote

You're acting like he just said this out of the blue lmao, people asked him about this and he answered. Blame the people asking athletes stupid questions on a daily basis.

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Remote_War_313 t1_it7ofdb wrote

No amount of training would help us achieve 1/10th of Bolts speed lol

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rainmaker2332 t1_it83ztd wrote

The quote is not about running fast, lol

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Remote_War_313 t1_it89o8k wrote

He's saying ppl quit and give up too early.

Point is it's easier for him since he's blessed with the natural genetics. Even if others persevere and train, they won't reach the same levels.

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rainmaker2332 t1_it8cgzx wrote

Again, the quote isn't about running fast. It's about not quitting upon not seeing immediate results. In any endeavor one may set out on.

Him being a naturally gifted runner had nothing to do with the idea of not quitting early. It has absolutely no relevance, in fact

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Remote_War_313 t1_it8dzdk wrote

It is ok to agree to disagree

Being naturally good at something makes it much easier to persevere at it. 🤷

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