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maiteko t1_iubmxjj wrote

Reply to comment by raised_by_groening in [image] Stop Negotiating with toxic people by tobycastle

Any person who has ever dealt with a person with a severe personality disorder would tell you: this is all pretty bad advice.

This kind of advice only makes sense when all parties involved are acting in good faith, and we are in the realm of “people just make mistakes”

But when dealing with fundamentally broken people, taking this attitude is just gaslighting yourself. It’s how people justify being in abusing relationships for years.

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Nanaremilamina t1_iuc7glr wrote

The whole post was telling people to look inward and not judge and you are saying "no that is stupid don't be enlightened"

Your post almost perfectly exemplifies one of the main problems with Western society right now.

Glad I have this popcorn

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raised_by_groening t1_iubrzx2 wrote

I just don't believe in fundamentally broken people.

Hoping whatever is going on you can heal with grace and can integrate in your community.

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DuskyDay t1_iud2fh1 wrote

> I just don't believe in fundamentally broken people.

You're missing some life experience. Hopefully you'll survive when you get it someday.

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raised_by_groening t1_iud7at4 wrote

My friend I just believe in forgiveness. And that the people that forgive, have more empathy to love those that are hurt.

Hahah, I wish I was missing the life experience you are talking about, but truly I am not lol!!

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raised_by_groening t1_iudk5ba wrote

Would you care to please define accountability in any particular context, just something that isn't general or abstract. Just a specific situation please?

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raised_by_groening t1_iudn26w wrote

Absolutely! I forgive for things like this. I usually forgive people when I have an expectation for someone, when they have made a commitment to me, and they fail to make good on their commitment. Instead of having hurt feelings, I just forgive them and move on.

Can I please have a definition of accountability? a specific situation?

I'm sorry I don't know your definition of accountability in another response. Could you please provide one?

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