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OrigamiPineapple t1_ive5npj wrote
Thank you. I was just diagnosed with ADHD at the age of 36, and I needed to hear this. Now I just need to believe it. :/
Lint_baby_uvulla t1_iveh4i0 wrote
Me : “” at 51. && Look at you go with all those extra years to find your new path.
I know the challenge of accepting your Dx. If a professional has made that diagnosis, go gentle on yourself and spend your energy with self compassion and understanding instead of fighting it.
You’ve probably spend a good part fighting it anyway right.. so try a new path.
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I just need to listen to my own advice when I’m not feeling motivated right now with stress and bills and feeling like I am really not capable of the job I used to do 3 months ago. And zero prospects if I can find another job that I can do. I’m too old. To learn new tricks. To be hired. Just spent 3 hours looking at Seek, Jora, indeed and depressed not finding anything that I can do.
Fuck. More CBT hard work to challenge the mental filters.
OrigamiPineapple t1_iveoiae wrote
Yes. Self compassion is so important. The way I'd put it I've spent my whole life swimming against the current of my own river. Now I'm finally aware of it, I can start swimming in the right direction, without the constant battle with myself to do things the 'correct' or neurotypical way. Hopefully things will get easier, anyway. I wish the best of luck to you as well :)
auntuchakma t1_ivel8kj wrote
Me at 30… I think my whole life made sense after that.
OrigamiPineapple t1_iveoais wrote
It's bizarre isn't it? My whole life up until this point suddenly makes sense, but the future is incredibly daunting. I need therapy but I don't even know where to start.
Lint_baby_uvulla t1_ivgk0fi wrote
For Therapy, try looking for Cognitive Based Therapy <CBT> courses. Or DBT <dialectical BT>.
Also, Additude Magazine has a lot of accessible reading and articles.
DM me if you need more or want to chat.
auntuchakma t1_iveol5d wrote
I started my therapy and even after I am confused if it’s working or not. I guess just starting somewhere is better than not doing anything at all. I am stuck at if I should get meds. But definitely it is very bizarre as you say!
Purple_is_masculine t1_iven77p wrote
Welcome to the club! Please take a fidget toy from the reception and don't get distracted by.. look, a squirrel!!
BudwinTheCat t1_iveqgf0 wrote
Curious. How did you go about the process of seeking a diagnosis? Or did it come up organically somehow with a doctor? I have suspicions about myself that I'd like to at least get checked out but I don't know where to start.
sunflower_love t1_ivg1zbn wrote
I’m not who you asked, but I made an appointment with a Neuropsychologist. My insurance didn’t cover it, so I had to pay out of pocket. They assessed me for ADHD, and then I was able to use that diagnosis with a regular MD who prescribed me ADHD medication.
BudwinTheCat t1_ivg64z6 wrote
Thank you very much for your reply. I just learned from you that you are able to schedule your own appointments for testing. I was under the assumption that you needed a referral from an MD.
sunflower_love t1_ivgc0rs wrote
You’re very welcome! I figure I should pay it forward. Since it’s thanks to my friends that had ADHD and let me know how I could get tested.
OrigamiPineapple t1_ivg8yij wrote
I live in the UK. I started reading more and more and suspecting I had ADHD but the wait list to get assessed is up to two years long on the NHS (our free health service). So I paid to go to a private psychiatrist who specialises in ADHD assessments for adults. Basically the options in this country are... go for the free health service (which is amazing and I'm not knocking our wonderful NHS workers but it's very neglected by the government at the moment and waiting times and services can be very slow)... Or pay a lot of money to go to a private company, but get seen to straight away and you don't need any kind of referral. And now I'm hoping I can take my diagnosis back to my regular NHS doctor and get treated.
sunflower_love t1_ivg1j8a wrote
I got diagnosed at 25, and have been doing therapy and medication. There’s no silver bullet, but these are definitely things that help significantly.
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