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[deleted] t1_iw9ghup wrote

alternatively: you can CREATE who you want to be rather than finding or remembering.

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Celestial-Whimsy t1_iwawc0p wrote

I was just going to say this. Not everyone has a super clear past “self”. Especially if you look at people with insecure homes as small children or who were abused as children. When you start your life in survival mode there isn’t a whole lot of room to flourish.

The traits that you’d want to have, the things you’d want to do if you had all the money or time in the world, the things that you kind of are interested in but know nothing about, hobbies you have no natural talent for, etc are all good places to start.

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YouSummonedAStrawman t1_iwbjzpf wrote

Also this seems to point that all external influences are wrong or bad and you need to get rid of them to fin your real self.

I had a great childhood and had parents and faith that prepared me for the world ahead. Many of my influences and the world I dealt with were positive in shaping who I am, not some negative that I need to reboot from childhood.

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[deleted] t1_iwd3w9s wrote

this is very true! while i do think the intended audience is those with a rocky upbringing in one way or another, you’re correct that not all “conditioning” and beliefs that you are raised with are bad & in fact some people live their best lives by those things

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