I was just going to say this. Not everyone has a super clear past “self”. Especially if you look at people with insecure homes as small children or who were abused as children. When you start your life in survival mode there isn’t a whole lot of room to flourish.

The traits that you’d want to have, the things you’d want to do if you had all the money or time in the world, the things that you kind of are interested in but know nothing about, hobbies you have no natural talent for, etc are all good places to start.