Notthe0ne t1_iy1tcfn wrote on November 28, 2022 at 2:28 AM

Reply to comment by amortizedeeznuts in Your Future Self [Image] by PJMurphy

Get a little older, we get kinder to ourselves I promise.

Silbannacus_returned t1_iy3idfo wrote on November 28, 2022 at 1:58 PM

Really? I'm almost 40. When does this start exactly?

amortizedeeznuts t1_iy2b309 wrote on November 28, 2022 at 5:01 AM

I think we just lose the energy to be angry, which also means losing the energy to do much about becoming the future self you want to be

Wchijafm t1_iy3ei41 wrote on November 28, 2022 at 1:23 PM

I disagree. I used to look back at my past and be embarrassed, angry at wasted time/potential, and all around blame for where my life is now. Now I look back with compassion, past me was going thru some rough times with basically zero coping skills and an inability to ask for help. She was doing the best she could with what she had. This shift came about for me when I stopped worrying about blame and started to accept what had happened and immediately look for solutions. When I accepted the past is the past and cannot be changed no matter how many times you relive it inside your head.