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cityfireguy t1_iy6a9cz wrote

It's good of you to ask and be aware. Know that already you've accomplished a lot.

Maybe for you it's different, but for me jealousy always went hand in hand with ego. Worried someone was better, upset that they had more than me, concerned my girl might leave me for someone she wanted more.

But here's the deal. There's always someone better. There will always be someone with more. I'm just a regular guy, not the world's best anything.

And that's great. You know the stress attached to being the best at anything? It's a lot. Let them have it. I'm the best at one thing, being me. That's all I can do.

But what if a woman I love leaves me for another man?!? They have, couple of them now. Guess what? It sucked at the time, but now I'm thankful. I don't want anyone in my life who'd rather be with someone else.

I think that's self esteem, I don't know, weird feeling. But it makes the jealousy wash away. I have nothing to be jealous of. I have me, I kinda really like me. And I hope that the people I choose to let into my life feel the same. Even if I'm not the best.

Hope that makes sense. Good luck to you.

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Berabouman OP t1_iybz0kl wrote

I do love myself. But yet I want happiness. Is that so wrong?

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