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trashpanda920 t1_izpcejf wrote

People expect too much from women. Why do they have to do even any of those things to be beautiful, even though they aren't considered typical standards of beauty. Let me be a mess

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[deleted] t1_izpywqu wrote

The intent of the statement is to deconstruct beauty standards and focus on inner beauty and ethics. It was using societal beliefs as a philosophical frame.

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khleedril t1_izpjg4y wrote

To be fair, you can do all those things and still choose to be a mess if you want.

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Pseudoburbia t1_izpv3nz wrote

Be a mess then. Be whatever you want to be. But understand that isn’t beautiful to many. This whole “accept me as I am AND APPRECIATE it!!” attitude is irritating. You don’t always get both.

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trashpanda920 t1_izpvydv wrote

I appreciate what you are saying. I didn't necessarily say that I want society to accept people like me who consider themseles " low maintenance" , though we should not be ridiculed or told it is unattractive or what have you, because people don't " appreciate it". What I want to accept is my business. Accepting that people think my style of self maintenance is unacceptable, is literally none of their business.

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sh9jscg t1_izpiiqi wrote

Idk I’m usually on the same boat but I think this can be good advice for anyone in general

Maybe not “DO THIS NOW” but more like “ain’t too bad if you add this to your life”

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THKhazper t1_izqh1vr wrote

I mean, as a general rule society expects everyone not in war or engaged in otherwise violent or extreme work, to have a sense of charity, decorum, positivity, and social life, all of which A. H. Covers, and that’s pretty much it, she says nothing of grooming, nothing of makeup or clothes, I walk around wearing work clothes 90% of the time, I look about as basic as it gets, but people will mostly judge me based on how I interact with them and others, not whether or not I picked my caveman unibrow or cleaned out my ears, though they might a bit if I haven’t bathed for a while

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minicrit_ t1_izpkzqy wrote

I agree with you but I don’t think this is a gender specific issue. People expect a lot from people in general. I think it’s just how society works itself to keep moving forward.

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