I was in that spot for a while, but I realized that by Changing my thoughts about myself and encouraging good behavior (positive reinforcement), I became more of the person I wanted to be. Instead of punishing myself, I coached myself lovingly on behaving well and cheered myself when I did. Within a matter of weeks, I switched from intense self loathing to loving myself everyday because I believe I am a great person who tries to do good in my core. I am worthy of love from myself because I am trying my best.