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RodmansSecurity t1_j0689cg wrote

Reply to comment by Berkamin in [Image] Randomly came across this on Instagram and it really hit me by maximum-aloofness

Trajectories can change through continual effort. They’re not immutable.

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Berkamin t1_j06bp7a wrote

Certainly. But I think part of changing one's trajectory is acknowledging loss (even if that loss is some quality or position or status or ability) and giving oneself permission to grieve. Then, once that grief has been expressed and has been relieved, it is possible to move on without the internal encumbrance of unresolved grief.

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RodmansSecurity t1_j06e02x wrote

You nailed it. Accepting what “is” and what “isn’t” at a given time can be very difficult. However, doing so gives one the agency to make substantive changes to their life.

For instance, I quit my supposed dream job and had an large, unproductive drinking problem. That was two years ago and I’ve been sober ever since, coincidentally finding more happiness personally and professionally than ever before. But it starts with being honest and putting the work in to change your life. It certainly is possible, and I encourage everyone to give it a try. Don’t shy away from failure. Failure highlights what you need to know in order to eventually complete whatever challenge you struggled with initially.

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