I had bad breakup as well, I just stopped loving the person and felt wrong to 'just be together'. Also they would threaten to kill themselves and make me have to fortify my home with fences would be more difficult for them to sneak into my property... Long story.

Pain will always be there since I once loved this person. I think people who cheat pay a higher price tho, and they have to live with their mistakes.

I feel like everyone's life is a Lake. You can erode and explore the world through streams and grow, absorbing the environment into a homogenous liquid. Let things that slow your growth naturally sink to the lakebed where only a very rough storm can briefly disturb the lakebed sediment once settled, yet at the same time the larger and deeper your Lake becomes the less of an impact it has on the whole. 🙏