Exactly. And it was also somewhat of a natural process, because a lot of it has to do with time and age, and the experiences you gain along the way. I'm comfortable but NOT so comfortable thay I stop being curious, and stop improving and growing. Thats the key. I indeed have checked all of that off, and what matters to me now is just continous self development and living the best life I can. That is, of course, subjective. I've been through quite a lot.

I made some changes, thought about a few things, took proper course of actions, changed habits, built new ones, changed my mindsets about a few things, even let some people go or create boundaries, change my job etc. It's been effective. And its an ongoing process requiring work. I got a lot of challenges and stresses, but I do my best to manage them. I prioritize my well-being and peace.

I also practice gratitude and keep my thoughts positive and healthy. I dont have a huge ego, I can admit when I mess up. Then work on it. I practice taking personal responsibility and ask myself questions like "How should I best handle this? What should I learn from this? What did I do that I shouldnt repeat?" instead of reacting the obvious ways. I use others as a source of inspiration and "goals". I was never the type to envy, hate, compete etc. and I dont have time for victimhood or self pity.

A lot of things start losing their importance as you transition. Others become top priority. You especially start noticing that in your 30s. I am perfectly comfortable in my own company with my thoughts. Many cant sit with themselves for 10 minutes without needing a distraction. I'm fine with others and I'm fine with me. I'm not afraid to let go or embrace anything, as necessary. I'm secured enough to not need complements, validations etc. But when I do receive it, I graciously accept.

For me, a peaceful, healthy life where I am with people who add value is of UTTER importance. Like, we're CHOOSING to be around each other, not because I'm gonna be crippled without. I'm busy, I'm on my own, I dont need shit. I just wanna spend my free time chilling, doing things I enjoy and not being a horrible person.

Also, no social/family plan? Its fine. I'm gonna enjoy Thai food and watch Family Guy or South Park on Sat night with my cat while I soak my feet in a hot foot bath. Or go out on my own. It's great!

I also FINALLY have a reasonable work-life balance. I wanted to level up, find something even a little better that doesnt just pay me, but helps me connect with others in a positive environment and helps me grow personally and professionally. As long as I make enough to support myself, I'm fine. Those aforementioned stuff matter a lot.

I didnt even care about the pay, I just wanted a change of environment because that would instantly improve things for me 100% even if same pay. Its not always about $$$. Just finished a contract yesterday and made several connections at that company while there. They told me to keep my eye out for any future positions, they'd love to have me back. What I do isnt my "passion". Its Administrative stuff. Not my dream job. But I like it and I'm valued. I keep my passions and interests aside to enjoy on my personal time.

Agreed. And I’m happy that you’ve been able to find the life that you wanted to live and that you’re doing well for yourself too, keep up the good work friend☺️