Exactly. And it was also somewhat of a natural process, because a lot of it has to do with time and age, and the experiences you gain along the way. I'm comfortable but NOT so comfortable thay I stop being curious, and stop improving and growing. Thats the key. I indeed have checked all of that off, and what matters to me now is just continous self development and living the best life I can. That is, of course, subjective. I've been through quite a lot.

I made some changes, thought about a few things, took proper course of actions, changed habits, built new ones, changed my mindsets about a few things, even let some people go or create boundaries, change my job etc. It's been effective. And its an ongoing process requiring work. I got a lot of challenges and stresses, but I do my best to manage them. I prioritize my well-being and peace.

I also practice gratitude and keep my thoughts positive and healthy. I dont have a huge ego, I can admit when I mess up. Then work on it. I practice taking personal responsibility and ask myself questions like "How should I best handle this? What should I learn from this? What did I do that I shouldnt repeat?" instead of reacting the obvious ways. I use others as a source of inspiration and "goals". I was never the type to envy, hate, compete etc. and I dont have time for victimhood or self pity.

A lot of things start losing their importance as you transition. Others become top priority. You especially start noticing that in your 30s. I am perfectly comfortable in my own company with my thoughts. Many cant sit with themselves for 10 minutes without needing a distraction. I'm fine with others and I'm fine with me. I'm not afraid to let go or embrace anything, as necessary. I'm secured enough to not need complements, validations etc. But when I do receive it, I graciously accept.

For me, a peaceful, healthy life where I am with people who add value is of UTTER importance. Like, we're CHOOSING to be around each other, not because I'm gonna be crippled without. I'm busy, I'm on my own, I dont need shit. I just wanna spend my free time chilling, doing things I enjoy and not being a horrible person.

Also, no social/family plan? Its fine. I'm gonna enjoy Thai food and watch Family Guy or South Park on Sat night with my cat while I soak my feet in a hot foot bath. Or go out on my own. It's great!

I also FINALLY have a reasonable work-life balance. I wanted to level up, find something even a little better that doesnt just pay me, but helps me connect with others in a positive environment and helps me grow personally and professionally. As long as I make enough to support myself, I'm fine. Those aforementioned stuff matter a lot.

I didnt even care about the pay, I just wanted a change of environment because that would instantly improve things for me 100% even if same pay. Its not always about $$$. Just finished a contract yesterday and made several connections at that company while there. They told me to keep my eye out for any future positions, they'd love to have me back. What I do isnt my "passion". Its Administrative stuff. Not my dream job. But I like it and I'm valued. I keep my passions and interests aside to enjoy on my personal time.