Submitted by TreatThompson t3_ztnuwu in GetMotivated

This is everyone's first time living. No one came out of the womb knowing more than you.

Steve Jobs once made this powerful statement:

>When you grow up, you tend to get told the world is the way it is and your life is just to live inside the world. Try not to bash into the walls too much. Try to have a nice family life, have fun, save a little money. That’s a very limited life.
>Life can be much broader once you discover one simple fact. And that is: everything around you that you call life was made up by people that were no smarter than you. And you can change it, you can influence it, you can build your own things that other people can use. Once you learn that, you’ll never be the same again.

This idea of not being intimidated by society is counterintuitive to what I saw growing up. But understanding it gives me the confidence to live life however I desire.

Tim Urban said most people think like this:

“This doesn’t seem right to me, but everyone else says it’s right, so it must be right, and I’ll just pretend I also think it’s right, so no one realizes I’m stupid.”

He likes to call them cooks. They respect the expectations and principles of authorities and society (known as dogma) too much.

He says that Chefs, on the other hand, lower their respect for dogma down to three levels.

  1. Game-breaking: Have little respect for dogma. They change how the game is played.
  2. Trailblazing: Have no respect for dogma. They go down their own path.
  3. Groundbreaking: Understand that the dogma wasn't made by anyone more impressive than them. They are the transcendent disrupters.

In a sense, Steve Jobs was saying that we’re delusional about the wisdom of everyone around us.

We trick ourselves into thinking we can’t have remarkable lives because we over-inflate the people who do have them.


This post was from my newsletter

I share ideas from great thinkers so we can stand on the shoulders of giants, instead of figuring life out alone



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TreatThompson OP t1_j1e9n46 wrote

On this topic, Tim Urban said it’s really a battle of confidence in others vs confidence in yourself

And to swing the balance he made the bold statement that we need to lose respect for general public and society's conventional wisdom.


TheNegAgeN t1_j1exe0f wrote

This entire thread is my shower thoughts manifested. Except everyone gets it.

What even is happening. I do feel really silly now my thoughts are finally so easily "confirmed". I lived like a robot , thinking others will guard me, untill they didnt and i face planted so hard I barely seem to recover.

In a way for someone that has always believed others do it better, and becoming very dependent, its terrifying knowing that actually alot of things i could do better if i just took initiative. Running behind someone where you know exactly how fast to run or what way to go, is comforting compared to running up front where you cant see anyone else, alone.

Im that guy that becomes passive, affraid of making mistakes to a fault, only to then see someone else fail so hard it annoys me and I have to correct them. Why couldnt i do that. Damn life is tiny if you know that you are trapped in a glass box and you cant seem to find a hammer.

It helps knowing this, but my convictions are rusted, its still hard to change now. Ive proven to myself that indeed nobody knows anything. Better late then never i guess.

Sorry for ranting. This post was positively received i swear!


TreatThompson OP t1_j1ezflj wrote

Thanks for sharing that! I can definitely say I’ve had those same feelings at certain points

The running behind someone vs running infront is a great point too

Glad to see someone else came to the same thought/realization


loveladee t1_j1ek8em wrote

Fuck yeah. Agreed. And I forget sometimes so thank you for reminding me. You know how people say we live in a computer simulation? I think they're right for the wrong reasons. Computer simulations mimic reality not the other way around. Therefore a computer simulation is like reality! We can be whatever we want


TreatThompson OP t1_j1em57y wrote

Wow I never thought of it that way

That’s def food for thought, gonna chew on that



Jautoka t1_j1g5wgz wrote



kadirkara07 t1_j1goz2j wrote

Absolutely Gold. What I needed to hear right now. Thank you OP


TheeAngelness t1_j1i5tfe wrote

This is beautiful. Thank you for sharing


TreatThompson OP t1_j1iaabs wrote

I’m glad it resonated with you!! Thanks for letting me know :)


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UncleJBones t1_j1ekj6v wrote

Basically no one else knows what they’re doing or supposed to be doing either.


TreatThompson OP t1_j1ealqr wrote

Realizing that these default paths that I was pressured to go down were made by people no different or “better” than me gives me the confidence to stray away from the paths I was led down

Hope that makes sense 😅