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nyafff t1_j375bs4 wrote

Good days arent 'earned' get out of here with this toxic shit.


Thirdwhirly t1_j378nyr wrote

Right? This is the kind of thing that keeps people from going to therapy when they absolutely need therapy.


IJustBeTalking t1_j37z60v wrote

It’s not earning through effort it’s earning through experience. The post is saying if you get through a bunch of bad days, that required getting through the bad day: you’ve earned yourself a good day to enjoy. It’s not saying “you don’t get a good day if you haven’t earned it” the post gives no qualifications for good days.


ValyrianJedi t1_j37arcy wrote

How on earth is that toxic?


nyafff t1_j37bkya wrote

Because it suggests that enduring suffering is the way to deserve a good day, does a child waking up to have a nice day have to earn that? No, then why should our good days be contingent on suffering or be treated as some kind of reward. We deserve good days because we are human, not because we paid some arbitrary penance.


ShvoogieCookie t1_j37k9vl wrote

True. Victims of abuse may cope with that but nobody should just rely on hope it going to turn better for you because the universe decided to reward you or not. Idly waiting for karma can be a very tragic path.


Dan3099 t1_j37g6iy wrote

I don’t think that’s what it suggests. You HAVE TO fight through the bad days because what’s the alternative? You let one literally kill you.

By literally surviving the bad days you earn the rest of your life, including those good days that you would have never made it to had you given up the fight.


ValyrianJedi t1_j37dmfs wrote

Kids have other people take care of all their needs though. Adults don't. If you're having a good day it's because you've done everything needed to and put yourself in a position to do so.


nyafff t1_j37dzze wrote

Not all children do and putting yourself in a position to have a good day isnt the same as enduring suffering in order to earn the right to a good day.


ValyrianJedi t1_j37exim wrote

Right, and the ones who don't also don't wake up to nice days. It honestly kind of blows my mind that this is even a debatable topic. You aren't just magically going to have good days when you haven't done anything to ensure or create them. Literally just surviving requires work.


nyafff t1_j37fvh5 wrote

Im not talking about magically having good days Im talking about this toxic positivity that suggests in order to have good days they need to be earned by suffering.

>It honestly kind of blows my mind that this is even a debatable topic

Go away then.


ValyrianJedi t1_j37g7th wrote

Kinda sounds like you just want something to be up in arms over.


JustKapping t1_j37lbmp wrote

no, you just completely don’t see the point. there’s no correlation between a bad day and a good day. one doesn’t increase the likelihood of the other. no one’s saying be a lazyass. what’s wrong with you? just confidently not using logic.

read a real book, valyrian jedi


Hoozuki_Suigetsu t1_j379ae1 wrote

They are earned


Burgling_Hobbit_ t1_j37y5yg wrote

Why/How? While there are certain types of "good" or "best" days that can be earned, some are just super simple. One of my best days was when I was a kid on family vacation to the beach. Sure my parents worked to earn that. I was just born into a family lucky enough to go to the beach that one weekend.


Hoozuki_Suigetsu t1_j37yth9 wrote

Because every good day i've had in the past year it was due to decisions that i took.


remag_nation t1_j386717 wrote

by that logic you also earn bad days with different decisions. None of this factors in the stuff that happens outside of our choices though.


Hoozuki_Suigetsu t1_j386uvb wrote

sure, keep thinking that way, it's easier to blame other people choices or luck.