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ValyrianJedi t1_j37arcy wrote

Reply to comment by nyafff in [Image] "You have to fight through some bad days to earn the best days of your life." by Butterflies_Books

How on earth is that toxic?

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nyafff t1_j37bkya wrote

Because it suggests that enduring suffering is the way to deserve a good day, does a child waking up to have a nice day have to earn that? No, then why should our good days be contingent on suffering or be treated as some kind of reward. We deserve good days because we are human, not because we paid some arbitrary penance.

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ShvoogieCookie t1_j37k9vl wrote

True. Victims of abuse may cope with that but nobody should just rely on hope it going to turn better for you because the universe decided to reward you or not. Idly waiting for karma can be a very tragic path.

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Dan3099 t1_j37g6iy wrote

I don’t think that’s what it suggests. You HAVE TO fight through the bad days because what’s the alternative? You let one literally kill you.

By literally surviving the bad days you earn the rest of your life, including those good days that you would have never made it to had you given up the fight.

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ValyrianJedi t1_j37dmfs wrote

Kids have other people take care of all their needs though. Adults don't. If you're having a good day it's because you've done everything needed to and put yourself in a position to do so.

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nyafff t1_j37dzze wrote

Not all children do and putting yourself in a position to have a good day isnt the same as enduring suffering in order to earn the right to a good day.

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ValyrianJedi t1_j37exim wrote

Right, and the ones who don't also don't wake up to nice days. It honestly kind of blows my mind that this is even a debatable topic. You aren't just magically going to have good days when you haven't done anything to ensure or create them. Literally just surviving requires work.

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nyafff t1_j37fvh5 wrote

Im not talking about magically having good days Im talking about this toxic positivity that suggests in order to have good days they need to be earned by suffering.

>It honestly kind of blows my mind that this is even a debatable topic

Go away then.

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ValyrianJedi t1_j37g7th wrote

Kinda sounds like you just want something to be up in arms over.

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JustKapping t1_j37lbmp wrote

no, you just completely don’t see the point. there’s no correlation between a bad day and a good day. one doesn’t increase the likelihood of the other. no one’s saying be a lazyass. what’s wrong with you? just confidently not using logic.

read a real book, valyrian jedi

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