463 consecutive bad days and still counting

Ok

This unhinged layout REALLY bothers me. I mean, WHAT is going on with the text?!

I felt this in my bones.

Good days arent 'earned' get out of here with this toxic shit.

You're due for a good one, you deserve it.

Why do you have to “earn” the best days of your life?

This sounds like more of the nice sounding but quite toxic nonsense that helps people to take comfort in their current suffering but do nothing to change it.

Right? This is the kind of thing that keeps people from going to therapy when they absolutely need therapy.

They are earned

How on earth is that toxic?

Because nothing just materializes out of thin air

Because it suggests that enduring suffering is the way to deserve a good day, does a child waking up to have a nice day have to earn that? No, then why should our good days be contingent on suffering or be treated as some kind of reward. We deserve good days because we are human, not because we paid some arbitrary penance.

Kids have other people take care of all their needs though. Adults don't. If you're having a good day it's because you've done everything needed to and put yourself in a position to do so.

Not all children do and putting yourself in a position to have a good day isnt the same as enduring suffering in order to earn the right to a good day.

It is true.. but hard at times!!!

You think that good days don’t just “materialise” out of thin air but all the bad days that you have to apparently fight your way through do?

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Right, and the ones who don't also don't wake up to nice days. It honestly kind of blows my mind that this is even a debatable topic. You aren't just magically going to have good days when you haven't done anything to ensure or create them. Literally just surviving requires work.

Yes. There are a decent many externalities required to have a good day, and none to have a bad one.

I totally disagree. Again, I would ask why you think that?

So your default state is a bad day unless some number of external events come together to produce a good day for you?

Im not talking about magically having good days Im talking about this toxic positivity that suggests in order to have good days they need to be earned by suffering.

>It honestly kind of blows my mind that this is even a debatable topic

Go away then.

Take just the absolute basics of food and shelter. Hard to have a good day when you are starving and homeless. You have to do things to avoid being starving and homeless, and taking no action whatsoever will lead to both. All of the prerequisites of somebody having a good day require action being taken. No action has to be taken to have a bad day.

I don’t think that’s what it suggests. You HAVE TO fight through the bad days because what’s the alternative? You let one literally kill you.

By literally surviving the bad days you earn the rest of your life, including those good days that you would have never made it to had you given up the fight.

Kinda sounds like you just want something to be up in arms over.

Go away.

So when do the best days start? Life has been getting progressively worse since 2015 and I'm about to lose my house and dog rescue in the next month or so. When do the bast days start for me?

True. Victims of abuse may cope with that but nobody should just rely on hope it going to turn better for you because the universe decided to reward you or not. Idly waiting for karma can be a very tragic path.

You to through some days earn best of have fight bad to the days your life

no, you just completely don’t see the point. there’s no correlation between a bad day and a good day. one doesn’t increase the likelihood of the other. no one’s saying be a lazyass. what’s wrong with you? just confidently not using logic.

read a real book, valyrian jedi

damn man. you just tell everyone my story.

I want everyday to be my best

Without finding one absolute extreme. My point is that happiness is an internal state, separate your external circumstances. Your mood is a choice.

What if I'm tired of fighting?

This is bullshit. No one has to have a bad day or suffer.

This reminded me of a Manager I had when I was in my early 20s. That time (in that company), we work Mondays to Saturdays 8hrs per day, even on Saturdays.

One time, the team was just chatting about work hours when this Manager said, "Don't you appreciate Sundays more because of [our company]?" None of us reacted immediately. But then a colleague said quietly and respectfully, "BuT ma'am, that means we only have one day off for church, chores, family and rest".

Manager just shrugged her shoulders, "But you KNOW that you earned it".

Boy am I glad I left that company.

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You don't have to earn them, but you won't know they're the best days of your life without having the bad days to compare them to.

..... best is best. You don't have to have an F in a class assignment to know your best grade on an assignment was the 100. It doesn't matter if all your other grades were 99. The 100 is still your best and will feel damn good.

Yes! You can't experience the good and better days if you are not able to experience the bad and bitter ones. :)

Why/How? While there are certain types of "good" or "best" days that can be earned, some are just super simple. One of my best days was when I was a kid on family vacation to the beach. Sure my parents worked to earn that. I was just born into a family lucky enough to go to the beach that one weekend.

Because every good day i've had in the past year it was due to decisions that i took.

It’s not earning through effort it’s earning through experience. The post is saying if you get through a bunch of bad days, that required getting through the bad day: you’ve earned yourself a good day to enjoy. It’s not saying “you don’t get a good day if you haven’t earned it” the post gives no qualifications for good days.

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I've always thought the bad days make the good days even better. If all you know are good days, then what can you use to compare that to?

people arguing with the fundamentals of life lol take away the words “fight through” and “earn” and replace them with “get through” and “get to”, then you will understand the message.

Definitly you should. It's like struggling with studying and wasting your time on some subjects you probably would't use in real life but at the end you are going to achieve academic success

If you get 99s on everything you have nothing to compare. There's neither a bad grade nor a best grade.

Once you get a 100 you now have a best grade and worst grade (or bad grades in comparison to the best grade).

Maybe I'm misunderstanding though.

This is bullshit and written in a bad font in an annoying way.

This is funny, I pretty much responded the same thing

I fucking hate this bullshit lol why am I subbed to this

by that logic you also earn bad days with different decisions. None of this factors in the stuff that happens outside of our choices though.

sure, keep thinking that way, it's easier to blame other people choices or luck.

I can agree that bad grades, or bad days, are not necessary.

You don't need to have something be bad to know when you experience the best.

Technically, but those bad days really make you appreciate the good ones. This is like the definition of having children lol

Nope.

I second this. I know from personal experience. Those bad days really do make you appreciate even some of the most uneventful and melancholy of days.

I must be in for a jackpot of best days =\

Eat shit for few years then eat caviar the rest of your life or something.

Hell nah. Why do I have to EARN a good day. 😭😂

your choices are not the only input into an outcome.

these rough patches are gonna push you out of your comfort zone and give you a fresh look at life. It'll help you expand your views and learn some new things. These tough times will build you up and make you a stronger person. When it's all said and done, you'll be able to handle any situation that comes your way like a champ. Keep your head up and keep grindin', you'll reach new heights in no time.

Just a tribute..

Count your blessings instead of your problems.

For me, it makes me not enjoy the good days because I'm just waiting for the next bad day and thinking how bad it will be. A lot of that anxiety is because of traumatic events in my life. I honestly feel like if I didn't have certain events happen to me, I would have more happy days that I'm not concerned about the next bad moment.

I will also say not to worry about my mental health: I work on it every day and have strategies to work through the anxiety and worries. I have a very good life with people who genuinely love me and I love them.

No, you don't.

It doesn’t work like that. For some, all life is a Disneyland, but for some it’s a constant torture. Yeah, you can say it’s a state of mind and soul but y’all know I’m right.

My thoughts, too. I’m sorry tired of the idea that we have to earn peace/a living/etc as if we’re born completely undeserving of these things.

Do I have to endure all the abuse to get to my good days?

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Those are rookie numbers. I'm over 9000!

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How many bad days must catch thine hands before good days arrive?

Hope you had a good day, but if not it's still pretty cool that dozens of people around the world thought of you and wished you well. Future good days are made of stuff like that.

I wish I can say I hope so.