worththinking t1_j3fk6hs wrote on January 8, 2023 at 5:04 AM

You are not meant to be a Doctor. Either you are not interested in studying the science necessary for that career or are self sabotaging because deep down you do not have the curiosity/determination to go through what it takes.

Spend time evaluating what classes you actually enjoy and are "effortless" because of your enthusiasm and craft a new plan. Also examine what about being a Dr. was so appealing to you in the first place--is it that you want to help people? You can do that in many other ways.

Find Yourself and good luck.

richTING13 OP t1_j3fmc4i wrote on January 8, 2023 at 5:24 AM

I’ve been too fucked in the head to give school the attention it’s needed. I started at a top 50 school so I’m not stupid. I’m only stupid because I haven’t developed myself much. But I AM interested in the sciences, I just don’t have a lot to prove my interest

[deleted] t1_j3g1dhe wrote on January 8, 2023 at 8:07 AM

what do you mean by "fucked in the head"?

I think there are times where, even if you are capable, it's best not to do something if the psychological strain would be too intense, it can easily trigger more serious mental health issues that become harder to escape once your livelihood depends on it.

I once considered being a neurosurgeon & decided to interview a well known guy in the field. he told me that if I want a life & family then this is not the job for me. the intense work, long hours, weekends, always on call, he never sees his kids & his wife left him & he doesn't blame her.

spydersens t1_j3fo7nx wrote on January 8, 2023 at 5:41 AM

He's not wrong but he's not all right. Only you know what you are willing to invest. Making it through medical school is strenuous and will take a lot of willpower, hard work and long hours. It also doesn't end there because doctors and lawyers do crazy hours. No can know exactly what you are capable and willing to do and medical school is a possibility although an extremely challenging one. You can't just be an average doctor, to be a doctor you have to qualify. It's not like being a soso financial consultant.