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Skipitybeebops t1_j46uu0b wrote

What if I don't know what "this" looks like

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_samsara_ t1_j46wysh wrote

Maybe "this" becomes figuring that out?

And if you don't know how to figure it out, then "this" becomes breaking that down into steps about how to figure it out. Like maybe get a book about it, or go to therapy, etc.

I guess you could think about it like zooming in on a fractal?

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Skipitybeebops t1_j46xzll wrote

Thank you

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poisonfoxxxx t1_j47v9sg wrote

This is the hardest part for me. I’m really good when given direction but had trouble realizing that for the things I care about I have to make my own battle plan and take it seriously.

Start writing down some steps on what you need to achieve your goal. Then start slowly to accomplish these things and your momentum will grow.

Stay organized and be kind to yourself! I have a tendency to think more than put those thoughts into action so I started with changing that.

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-Nicolai t1_j48cg6i wrote

And this is how I ended up in the fetal position

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BabySamurai t1_j47r1qr wrote

I really like the idea behind ACT: determining what your values in life are, and using them as a compass for the direction you take and the choices you make.

Is family important? How do you want that to look like? Is it self improvement? In which direction? Etc etc

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