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EERMA OP t1_j6dic5y wrote

Reply to comment by imasensation in [Discussion] Fed up? Bored? Fed up with being bored? Ready to get on with the rest your life? by EERMA

'Success' is you living your life, your way: applying your signature strengths to create meaning for you, value for others and legacy for the future.

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Whatever this means for any individual is down to them. Conflicts between what this means for a person and what others (typically parents) want / demand of them of ten lead to long term conflicts which manifest themselves in issues rooted in low life satisfaction or low self confidence, or anxiety, or anger (especially in men) or depression or a mixture of these things. I see this pattern quite often in my clients.

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imasensation t1_j6dimxm wrote

I’d say you have a good grasp. I share the situation you describe and it’s led to depression and lack of wanting to participate in society at even the most basic levels

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EERMA OP t1_j6dxor1 wrote

That's a tough situation for anyone and I'm sorry you are having to live with it.

With effort, support - and the inevitable setbacks along the way - it is realistic to expect to turn this vicious cycle around in to a virtuous cycle of living a fulfilling life. Ignore those who will tell you it is easy. Listen to those who will tell you it is worth it.

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Best.

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imasensation t1_j6ee9kz wrote

Thanks for your kind words. And lending your time. I try to be there for as many people as I can. It’s one thing that motivates me and helps me see my life isn’t as bad as some others. Sometimes helping others helps me learn valuable skills

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