M0shka t1_j8vxwse wrote
You need to accept that you are to blame for the choices you’ve made. It’ll be hard, but you aren’t blaming society, or circumstances. Once you can accept it, you can now start with the moving on phase; the rebuilding phase.
Let’s unfuck some fucks. First, you’ll have to stop comparing yourself to your peers. Live your life in your own lane.
Second, understand the difference between a job and a career. Let’s target a career now, not small jobs like djing at gyms. What career would I recommend for someone like you? Definitely not tech. However, I’d recommend something like recruiting. I know recruiters aren’t as much in demand as they were last year due to layoffs etc, however, there’ll still be a demand for them. You talk to people, set them up with jobs, and can also gamify the process, “how many candidates can I land this month? Can I beat my last record?”. Jobs where you can gamify objectives can play to your ADHD advantage. Similar careers include sales but it also comes with more stress.
Third, gamify your entire life. You are in a real world MMO and your skills are low. Grind out for a few levels, upgrade your gear.
Fourth, once you start making good money, for the love of fuck don’t spend it. Use it to make more money by investing. Invest in ETFs not individual stocks no matter what anyone tells you.
Fifth, go dark for a few months to complete your goals. You’re not on social media. You’re not hanging out with anyone else. You’re accomplishing your goals.
Incoherent thoughts but I am also really sleepy so gn
AmandaRL514 t1_j8wnocl wrote
This answer is great. It's time to take everything more seriously. Most of us, as adults, really need to commit to a 9-5 type job and do not have the option to live with our parents. Maybe there were missed opportunities from your parents while raising you but that is moot at this point and you can only deal with today and tomorrow now and not look back at what went wrong.
I like the commenter's idea of gamifying your life. It's a pretty cool strategy. I commend you for noticing where you've come up short for yourself and wish you well on your journey.
Eaton2288 t1_j956yte wrote
I’m curious, why would you not recommend tech?
MiamiMedStudent t1_j8xx7wf wrote
Good advice. The trick is habit forming. I find myself doing this for 2 weeks and then dwell back to the comfortable
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