To echo some other sentiments in here. At 31 it is time for you to take ownership of your mistakes and the situation you are in. Accountability will be key to your next step.

You say being a people person was just a coping mechanism when you were younger. Well guess what, in order to be a successful, functioning member of society you have to play to your strengths. If you’re good at connecting with people you should stick to that. What’s the worst that could happen? You make some new friends?

Maybe focus on a trade, grind under a contractor for a little bit, learn how to use some tools and some problem solving and technical aspect of the job and you’ll be ready. Don’t even waste your time/money on business school or classes.

A friend of mine had a full ride to uni, ended up partying too hard and spending his scholarship money on booze and coke. Ended up working in kitchens/restaurants then after 7 years he started working home renovations. It only took him a year to learn a lot and (because there’s a massive labor shortage in that field) just started working on his own. Dude makes $80/hr usd, has learned invaluable skills, has a house that he’s fixed up and made absolutely beautiful.

Essentially he would just do a before and after pic of the homes he worked on when he was an “apprentice” and post it to his IG. Those same friends of yours who are having kids and settling down will see that and be like, “hey bro can you do my kitchen/patio/front porch/bathroom etc.”