skeevester t1_j8yo0w0 wrote
I drove a county bus until I was 30 - not exactly the same situation but I was about as prepared for a real career as if I had been living with my parents the whole time. What changed is I found something that I was interested in (computers) and spent all my spare time studying and becoming proficient - took a volunteer IT position at a charity and leveraged that experience to get a real job and eventually, a real career.
You are still super young, you can do whatever you want - but you need to figure out something that you want to do, something that you'll push yourself to master because you enjoy it.
Fuz8ion t1_j8z2gi4 wrote
I love this comment, alot of the other ones were unnecessarily harsh, maybe that guy needs to hear it that hardness, but I digress. I do have a question, because this does seem like the obvious answer, but so many people including me don't ever take it .. why do you think that is?
I would assume bad parenting, mental or physical disabilities, serves trauma in early upbringing etc. All play a part in someone's downfall/bad decision making but I also agree that something else is at play. It's complacency. And to some degree that's on the parents still, right? If my mom forced me to get a job, go back to school or I'm going homeless... Guess I'm getting my life together, most people I know had that forced upon them at some point during 14-21. Anyone in my shoes or the OP's just didn't.. The "free range" style of parenting creates people like me that are literally wired to respond to the world in a very specific way I'm not so sure can be unlearned without intensive therapy and years of systematic planning.... A single individual trying to fix their life is doomed to some degree in this scenario. At this point, parents gotta die, I gotta get cancer, or some insane life event has to take place for change to happen, which sucks but hopefully the reality check isn't that bad, but hey that's life, it sucks and then we die 😂
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