PsychologicalSea9049 t1_j90l5le wrote on February 18, 2023 at 8:40 AM

As a previous commenter mentioned, what you call average is what many might aspire to. I'm aware that that's not what you want to hear or that you find helpful, so here's my practical advice for you:

If you're honest when you say you value the stuff in your life you need to accept it, your "average" life. Desire nothing more than but to nurture what you already have. You might also find this brings value to others.

I also advise you see a therapist.

A new affair of sorts - career, romantic, life passion - can be great, but if you're someone who thrives in stability or needs it, understand that the risk profile for engaging in one these activities is high. The cost for being above average requires sacrifice. Whichever decision you make, you'll need to accept full responsibility, as you are for your current mindset.

APCoach t1_j92dxp5 wrote on February 18, 2023 at 6:37 PM

You serious, Clark? I don’t see how anything that you wrote applies to what OP was expressing.

“Risk profile for engaging in one of these activities?” Who says OP was considering having an affair? All due respect, seems to be some sort of projection going on here.

I would’ve normally just chalked this response up as “ODD”.

But dear God, who are you to advise anyone to “see a therapist”? IDC who you are, that’s NOT OK.

PsychologicalSea9049 t1_j97si1o wrote on February 19, 2023 at 10:25 PM

Thanks for the feedback.

I didn't say that their seeing a therapist is a bad thing. I think anyone can benefit from talking to one. Wouldn't you agree?

I don't think I'm projecting.

The OP sounds like a nice person. They also come across as bored. I think that is an indicator to something. Or consciously decide not to do anything and begin processing the grief that could accompany that. Or, to kick start something new and potentially meaningful.