When I go through hard times I use the saying “three months from now this will all be different”. Because it will be. And because that’s a manageable amount of time. Sometimes I try to imagine what will be different, other times just know that it will be when I get there. That helps me a lot. It’s a way of saying it’s completely fine to be sad and heartbroken right now, but also know there is an end point in sight and not feel overwhelmed by it. It’s also a way to focus on small goals to make sure things will be different in 3 months. And then 3 months from now, it’s important to take stock of where you are and recognize how things have changed in those 90 days.