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user_dan t1_j9btnrm wrote

With respect to "adversity", it is neither. Proximity and luck play bigger roles.

Proximity refers to the people, paperwork and experiences you have immediately available to you. Luck is just luck. The level of confidence you have in the pieces available motivates you to push forward. That is the reality for the average person.

Many "motivation" stories are mixtures of proximity and (lots) of luck. These stories then get retconned as some heroic, self-driving motivational epic. For some people, the recon can be very intimidating and even demotivating.

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DrMelbourne OP t1_j9bveqe wrote

What kind of paperwork do you have in mind?

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user_dan t1_j9c1psf wrote

I was just referring to exploring options outside of immediate friends and family. We live in a society of rules. Sometimes we think the rules are against us and assume there are fewer options than what is available. Maybe asking the boss for a raise. Maybe applying for another job that you thought you were not qualified for. Etc.

That raise may give you some breathing room. That breathing room may change your perspective.

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your_faithfully t1_j9bx28t wrote

I agree. I was in a shithole of life until December where I got some opportunities (luck) and that motivated me the fuck out to get out of shithole. But now after 2 months I'm altogether in a different hole (my job paused my full time hiring ) and now I'm just sad (proximity ) cause I was dependent on them for my bills and shit man.

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wearethepeopleibrox t1_j9c7yzg wrote

Couldnt disagree more. I made it with none of the above

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user_dan t1_j9camcl wrote

You overcame "adversity" with no people, no rule support, no drawing on past experience and no luck.

"adversity" is external. We don't choose what adversity brings or when adversity shows up. If you don't have a repeatable process to address it, adversity will roll over you.

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