Suffield, CT is a nice place that is easily commutable to Hartford. It's a smaller town, good schools, and Enfield is right across the river for all your shopping needs. It's also good proximity to Bradley Airport if you think you're still going to be involved in either the Air Nat'l guard base there, or you needed to be close to Westover Air Force base, it's not far.
Similarly, there are aerospace companies in this area: Collins Aerospace, United Technologies, Pratt & Whitney.