Shivy_Shankinz t1_iu1y05b wrote on October 27, 2022 at 11:14 PM

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I think we all would. But some of us can't hide from reality once they see it. Sometimes reality just hits deeper than others I'd say

lukeman3000 t1_iu363nb wrote on October 28, 2022 at 5:23 AM

I don't see it as hiding from reality. I see it as accepting reality. I don't see optimism and realism as mutually exclusive concepts.

Easy for me to say having not endured a fraction of the percentage of hardship that some have, but so far I think I've done pretty well in this regard.

Shivy_Shankinz t1_iu4nsft wrote on October 28, 2022 at 2:59 PM

Yes, accepting certain realities is not easy. Why should we have to accept realities that are wrong or evil in this world. Those realities simply carry more weight for some than others, whether they accept them or not

falafelwaffle55 t1_iu3blv5 wrote on October 28, 2022 at 6:31 AM

Yeah, reality unfortunately is very harsh, "life isn't fair" and all that. I find the silver lining in things when I can so I wouldn't say I'm super pessimistic, but when you've seen people you love die, watched people harm themselves and been harmed yourself, it's hard to say "everything will be okay". Because "okay" depends on what it is you desire

Shivy_Shankinz t1_iu4p1ek wrote on October 28, 2022 at 3:07 PM

That's right. Something shifts inside once we have to endure or experience those types of realities. The shifts will be different for everyone, how we respond will be different.