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Claudia-Delgado-LCSW OP t1_izfay3z wrote

Reply to comment by thenewman978 in I’m Online Therapist, Claudia Delgado, LCSW. I work with Women that are having an Affair - Emotional or Physical. AMA. by Claudia-Delgado-LCSW

Hi Thenewman978. Thank you for your question. Couples therapy can help several issues. I recommend working with a couples therapist whom is Gottman trained. I will add that both parties must be willing to work on relationship vs blaming and assuming only one person is the problem. Many couple seek out therapy during different parts of a relationship to help with difficult situations or to strengthen relationship.

Even though couples therapy can be beneficial, if one person does not want to be in relationship, it likely won’t help.

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blackeyedsusan25 t1_iznm5m7 wrote

Here's the thing - what if one partner has PTSD, for example. The other partner's contribution to relationship deterioration is a fraction of the PTSD's. "One person is the problem" can be true in cases of heavy-duty emotional conditions.

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Affair-Recovery t1_izt7036 wrote

If one person has trauma related problems it is recommended for that person to be working through them individually in therapy. As far as couples therapy, you are correct that one person may hold more challenging behaviors that affect the relationship however it doesn’t change that in order for couples therapy to work, both parties have to be willing to put in work and not blame each other. it is very challenging to have someone accountable and hold responsibility while not coming from a place of blame. This might include one person having to accommodate or bend more. In therapy it may be found that the person having to accommodate more may feel like it’s too much.

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